we all are energy okay

and we get to choose how we show up in the world

and it's going to

impact the amount of money that flows to us

hello fam

and welcome to another episode of the Aligned

Performance Podcast

the podcast that goes beyond the day today

to help you create your most aligned life of

purpose and potential

my name is trying your host for the show

and today I am so excited to be sharing with you

a conversation that I had with the Shallow Weenie on

healing your relationship with money

now this is a conversation that is so powerful

and

it's a topic that I haven't gone in depth on this show

yet it is such a core part of what many of you desire

like I talk to you

and I hear that you wants to create your dream life

and a big part of that is having financial freedom

you want to have a financial freedom

so that you can have lifestyle freedom

you can do what you want when you want

with who you want and you wanna have that flexibility

you want to be able to have options

you don't want to compromise

and that in our world today

has a strong basis of our financial situation

so why not

speak to someone who has studied the psychology

and science around money

and has created that financial abundance for herself

the shallowweenie was a nurse and narcissist who left

her 9 to 5 working profession

to start her own business

and she's done that whilst being a wife

a mother and has created multiple streams of revenue

as a professor a coach and author and a speaker

so in today's episode Lachelle talks about

how you can heal your relationship with money

how money is neutral it's not good or bad

the different resourceful

and un resourceful belief systems around money

how ancestral patterns can affect

how you perceive money

and the way that you spend money

and how you can start to shift your beliefs

so that you can create

more abundance of finances in your life

if you want to heal your money wounds

and you want to create

abundance of finances in your life

then this episode is for you

let's get into it

this is my conversation with Michelle Weenie

on healing your relationship with money

the shallow weam

hello and welcome to the Alliance Performance Podcast

hey hey hey

I'm so glad I'm here thank you so much for having me

I cannot wait to dive into all things money today

so that we can help people level up sister

are you so excited too yeah absolutely

like we were just saying before

we have so much in common

we share so much of this similar energy

that we could have just kept talking

and we're like okay

we better start recording and actually get into it

absolutely absolutely

no it's an honor to be here

so thank you so much

it's a pleasure so

I'd love to get straight into it

because we have so much to unpack and explore today

but I'd love to hear more about you to start

because the show you're a wife

you're a mum you're a nurse anesthesis

I gotta always get that right

I always like chip on chip on that

your professor a coach

an author a speaker

a business owner like you

you have so much to give to this world

and I'm curious what would you say

is the most influential experience in your life

that has LED you to where you are today

oh my gosh that is such an easy question

and I'm hope that the rest of them are this easy

but honestly

it started my first online business in 2,016

and you know when you read my bio

you mentioned a lot of like

things that I got to check off my

my list right

and your audience are driven

high achieving women like we are

and they they feel like they're called for more like

like I did but the thing is that I recognize now

looking back pre 2,016

that I was in my professional world

trying to chase after fulfillment

and that next challenge and that next achievement

and honestly like if I have to be really

really vulnerable with all of you guys

I was probably chasing my own worth

if I have to be really honest with you

and my allowing for myself to continue

to get to the next title the next job

the next whatever

it never left me feeling ultimately fulfilled

because there was always something lacking

and I know that

that's part of just my driven personality

but it was when I started my business

that allowed me to tap into a part of myself

that I didn't even know existed

and it allowed me to uncover strength and different

just things that I get to uniquely bring to the table

that I had not been able to do in corporate America

and here I was

literally

feeling like I was coming to life all over again

it's almost like life was black and white before

and now it was in color

and that's the best way for me to describe it

because for the first time

I felt like I could

really step into everything that I was capable of

with the excitement of what's to come

and so that that's definitely when it happened for me

hmm that's so interesting

and I love that visualization of black and white

to now in colour it's like The Wizard of Oz

it's that moment where that

that has dark contrast right yes

yeah so

what was that moment for you

like was there something specifically that happened

or was it a gradual you know

realisation or you know

remembering of you know

what's really important to you over time

yeah so I think that a little bit of both right

like I think that

I would say within six months of started my business

things started to become very clear

but it still was that six month process

and it's been continuing to evolve ever since

and I think that

it was these tiny little things that I realized

that everything that I had planned had happened right

so I went to college

I got my bachelor's my master's my doctorate degree

I wanted to become a professor for the doctor of nurse

anesthesia program like that was my dream job

I became that and everything that I wanted to do

was checked off my list and here I am

you know in my early 30s

doing everything that I thought

that I ever wanted to do and yet

there was still something missing

enough for me to wanna start this business

and I think that it was just like

I was ready for a new challenge

I wanted to kind of diversify what I was doing

and I'm like

I'm just gonna give it a give it a ride right

and I think that that was when I started to discover

small little things

such as for me

like I'm such an entrepreneurian newer and spirit

but I never acknowledged it

I always felt like there was something wrong with me

because I wanted to challenge what we were doing

I wanted to get things done faster

I didn't like

the committees upon committees

upon committees that it took to get

any change happening in corporate America right

I I saw potential

and things that I wanted to dive in and do it

and there was a point in my life where I felt like

there was something wrong with me

because I kept seeing things and wanting to fix things

and wanting to make things better

that it's almost like I didn't fit in

realizing now that it's because I'm an entrepreneur

and I see solutions and I love to

to help solve them right

like that's what we're all about

and so I think that when I

when I look at my experience with that

I realized that it was this moment where

all of a sudden I don't have to

get approval with committee upon committee

upon committee to make something happen

I get to just do it

it's the moment when I realize that I

I mean if you guys can see behind me

I'm like a nerd when it comes to books

I love learning I can't get enough of it right

my strength finders are input and learner

like

there's a reason that I can't get enough of this stuff

right and here I am

like in the space of my business where I'm like

holy crap like

I can read this and then apply it to my life

without having to know like

I'm not in a certain title at my job

or don't have a certain initials behind my name

or I have to you know

Pat somebody's back on in some office

to try to get them to listen to me

like I get a chance to execute this on my own

like holy crap like let's let's do this

I can do it as fast or slow as I want to

and then it kind of got me to this realization that

as an entrepreneur

I get to create my life of my dreams my life by design

the work life balance that I want to

and there's no ceiling to what I can accomplish

you know and it was like

these tiny little nuggets of realizations like

oh my gosh

like this is what I've been missing and realizing that

you know my other strength finders

I don't know if you've taken that

but I have all my clients take it

because I think it's so powerful

when we know how are we uniquely designed

and how we can show up in the world

communication and achieving are both

two things that I have as well as

as well as connectedness

and when I started to realize that like

I get to use those strengths

but to like a higher level to the 10 x level

I get to communicate in ways that

I don't have to ask for permission at work right

I get to connect with people on ways that are beyond

what's in policy like

if I wanna connect with somebody over my nerdy

quantum physics love

or my brain science you know

passion or

or scripture or anything else that I like love to dig

I get you I don't have to like

put myself into the box of corporate

and so I started to recognize that I was coming alive

what happened to me next was kind of the turning point

is about six months in and all of a sudden

I started to recognize that I was making enough money

that I could cut down at the hospital by a day

a week

and for me that seemed

you know maybe insignificant other people but for me

like I

I had a good pain job like multiple 6 figure pain jobs

so one day a week is significant

and it also meant that I got a chance to spend an extra

day a week with my daughter

who was 4 before she started school

and I'll be honest with you

like I remember sitting across from my son

second grade teacher he's older

and I had been home with him more

before I started my job as a professor

and he was ahead of the game

and then when I met with her in second grade

I remember her telling me that he was falling behind

girl

I was like biting back tears like biting my bottom lip

like I don't know how many of your listeners are moms

but I thought in that moment

that exact moment

that I had to choose between what lit me up

what set my soul on fire

or being a mom and present mom and wife

and it broke my heart I'm like

oh my gosh am I being selfish

am I letting him down

but there was something inside of me

like your listeners have that it's just like no

like there's something inside of me

it's so strong it's like in my belly that is just like

you know crawling up past my heart and in my throat

like I have to do something bigger

better with my life bigger impact

and I felt so stuck and then this business came along

and I started to recognize that

there is something called the

and life

that we don't have to choose between this or that

I can have both

I can design my life that is full of that impact

those challenging

fulfilling moments and be as present as I want to be

I love traveling the world

you and I are gonna meet someday sis

and as oh yeah

I wanna be able to show my kids was possible

I wanna take them to places

they could have never imagined

because I never got to do that when I was little

and show up in a big way

and inspire people to live out their best life

and be challenged fulfilled

to know that I am doing everything I can with this

tiny blurb of a life that I get to live

and so when I started to recognize that

and life that happened when I started to

to make as much money as I needed to

to step back at work I'm like

oh my gosh

like there is something to this

this is possible and I just started to lean in

and each step after that

allowed it to unfold into the next step

which is you know

honestly keeps unfolding you know

as we as we chatted before we started recording my

my new book launched about well

a few weeks ago actually

I that wasn't

that was a Sunday plan for me

and when we decide that we're ready to just

lean into those little wiggles

those desires and just like lean in

make the decision to make it happen

and do the things that are necessary

life will unfold

and it is phenomenal

cause I just before we got the chance to record

just before this

I recorded a video for a parenting summit

for a gal in the UK that I'm helping

and it's all about how do we model for our kids

how do we show them it's possible

how many of us have dreams when we were little

and then we don't we didn't do what we wanted to do

but yet we dream it for our kids

why would we dream it for our kids

and not for ourselves

how about we just show them instead

and that

starting my business allowed all of that domino effect

all of that chain of events start to take place

to allow me to show up in a way that is

is I'm on fire I'm on fire for life

I'm on fire for impact right now

and I get to meet people like you

oh I was listening to your story

with the biggest smile on my face because

you know your story and

and the listeners will know this like

you know this very similar to mine

it's one that I know

so many women listening will resonate with

and that it's like okay

this is how we've grown up

this is the path that we have gone down

but there is more now

we can live that and life and

you know there is no ceiling

and I think that's a really great way to

start off this episode

and to Segway into talking about

you know healing our relationship with money because

you know this is a topic that can be taboo

it can be you know

like talking about money

and wanting a lot of money

can be something that we were taught

you know we shouldn't yes

but if we want to live that end life

if we want to have that power to impact

to influence inspire

to create change then money is a part of that

money can be a really beautiful thing

so I'd I'd love to

start off with this

and actually start off by objectively

looking at money for what it is as a resource

let's let's start here and

let's start to

actually break down how it is a resource

that can be utilized for good or bad

for resourceful reasons or un resourceful

so are you able to speak to this to start with

oh my gosh yes so you're gonna let me

you're gonna let me deep dive into my nerdy brain

science and my quantum physics stuff here for a sec

okay so

I want you to start out by saying that

I love the universal laws

because the universal laws are the things that govern

the way that the world works okay

and I don't care if you are

you know of the belief that you know

everything is is a coincidence

like I watch the sun rise and set every single day

I watch the tide go in and out every day

I watch an acorn turn into an oak tree

like

there are rhythms and laws that govern our universe

that allow for things to happen

the way that they're intended to happen

when we can take advantage

understanding these universal laws

and use them to our benefit

we can see massive change happen

and the way that I that I equate this is

and and I'm gonna be honest

like you guys I want you to know all of me

like vulnerability and authenticity

or like huge values for me

so I want you guys to know that

I come from an angle that uses not only brain science

and quantum physics but I also use scripture

into the way that I look at the world

and so for me

using universal laws is a way for me to work with god

in my belief system

I work with a god that created the universe

and the universal laws within it

and I get a chance to partner with him

to create this amazing beautiful fruitful life okay

that's gonna come into into context later on

when we talk about some of

our belief system that hold us back

so I wanted to make sure that I mentioned that

but when I talk about working with god

or working with universal laws

one of the things that I love to to use as an analogy

and you're gonna appreciate this

since you're Australian

but I I love the movie Finding Nemo right

you've seen it

I'm sure the audience has seen it once upon a time

so there's this this scene in the movie

where Dory and Marlon have been swimming

you know

through the through the ocean looking for Nemo right

and Dory has this great attitude she's like

just keep swimming just keep swimming and but like

you know that takes a lot of effort right

to have a good attitude and did put

or the muscles to keep swimming right

well anyway they meet the turtle

the crush the turtle and he's like

hey dudes like

all you need to do is get into the EAC

and it'll shoot you right into Sydney

and they literally use his advice to get into the AC

and it shoots them into where they wanted to go faster

that's what you working with the laws can do for you

so if you're finding that you're missing out on the

impact and the income that you are longing for

utilizing

the universal laws will allow you to get there faster

which is so cool okay so

the universal law of relativity says

that everything is neutral

everything is neutral including money

it is the story and the perception that we put into it

that gives it a meaning

and so when I ask somebody

what is your belief around money

it's literally getting them to

acknowledge that they have a story attached to it

because it is in turn truly energy

truly neutral and it is us as human beings

that bring our belief systems into it

to define it as good or bad okay

now are you okay

if I go into a little bit of nerdy brain science here

oh please do like my physiotherapy background is like

bring it on light on us okay

cool so so our brains are remarkable things in fact

like people have equated the human brain to be like

the most fascinating machine in the universe okay

so you guys

have to know this that we're built beautifully

but there's something that we have to acknowledge

if we're gonna look at money

so

our belief systems are a idea of how the world works

based on what we've experienced

and what we've been taught okay

not only do we start to

come up with beliefs about how the world works

but more importantly how we fit in the world

and what's really fascinating about

the way that our brains develop

is that we are often

creating these belief systems as our foundation

before we're even 7 years old

so many of the beliefs that we have taken on

that are showing up in our adult life

have been there for a really

really long time

and god did it that way on purpose

so that we are

allowing

our little brains to 100% rely on our caregivers

because human infants are so helpless

so it's a good thing in that way

but unfortunately because we're little

we don't have the context to know that okay

if somebody tells me that

I don't get that candy at the grocery store

because I'm not a good girl

that doesn't mean that I'm I'm as a person

human being not a good girl

it's the context of I might have been a brat that day

right but when we're little

we don't have the context

and so we might take that messaging on and say

I'm not a good girl we also learn by watching

and we learn

by picking up the energy of the people around us

so I'll give you an example

when I was a kid I didn't know

my mom and dad didn't talk about money

other than they didn't have any

I never saw them balance a checkbook

I never saw them you know

give extravagantly I saw them struggle with

with money I saw them telling us that we have to

you know limit what we have

that we that we don't have very much

that you have to work hard for money

all of these belief systems then

are what my brain has taken in

without having the context that

that is not true for everyone right

and so it's my my belief of how I think the world works

and what happens is we take on those beliefs

money doesn't grow on trees

but you have to struggle to have money

um money

you know bad

it's bad if if you have money or only arrogant

selfish people have a lot of money right

I remember being a little kid and my mom and dad

you know they were poor and they were farmers

but all of my aunts and uncles

on one side of my family were really successful

they my mom and aunt married a man who owned a bank

my other aunt

married a man who was a very successful insurance guy

a couple of my uncle's own businesses

so we didn't have what they had

and my mom felt very insignificant around them

so I grew up with this belief that if you have money

that that it's bad because that

they made me feel insignificant

now I made me feel insignificant right

by watching my mom money is not bad

it's the meaning that we attach to it

so then I grow up and what happens is

our subconscious mind does this beautiful thing

which we can use to our advantage

but unfortunately

it brings about really unhealthy money mindset

when we're adults is

our brain then

looks for ways to validate

what it knows to be true in the world

so if you think that it's hard to

to earn money

you're going to see examples all around you that

confirm that belief if you believe that only selfish

arrogant people have a lot of money

you're going to see that everywhere

and you're not even getting to notice

all of their other examples that contradict that

contradict that right

and so unfortunately

those belief systems are put inside of our brain

our subconscious cannot reject

it can only accept

and it doesn't have the context when we're little

and it continues to look for validation in our

outside world for entire life

so what we get to do at this point in time

as we're listening to this as

as you and I are talking

and as all you guys are listening to this

we get a chance to utilize our superpower

the one that we all have

that we often times neglect to appreciate

you know that superpower is it's our superpower

free will

we get to choose

so we are not responsible for what happened to us

but we are responsible for this moment forward

we are responsible to choose

to change the story that we have

our own money money is neutral

if we view money as bad I get to choose again

I get to take advantage of the fact that

there's something called neuroplasticity

where I can retrain my brain

to have new belief systems

things are not set in stone

but you get a chance to rewrite that

but first you have to choose to do it

you have to acknowledge that

you have the power within you

to choose again

and so when you get a chance to say okay

I no longer want to accept that this is the only way

that is true and I'm going to challenge myself

to look for evidence that contradicts that

I can to see different examples

and start to rewire my brain a little bit wow

I'm so glad that you went into the

the science behind where like our

our belief systems come from

because yeah

this this universal law that everything is neutral is

is it like yeah

because as humans

in order for us to perceive anything in the world

we've got to first take it in and we gotta

actually process it yes

to then be able to perceive something

so as you as you say everything that we see about money

is our own projection of our belief system

surround us and and yeah

like our our financial situation

it's it's no accident it's not a coincidence

it is created by our internal relationship with money

and this is the perfect place to start

because ancestral wounds

generational narratives that are handed down

like what you said and I had the same thing as well

like I I'm a daughter to immigrant parents

like my parents came to Australia from Vietnam

from a war torn country from poverty

like you bet

there were these narratives around

money that were handed down to me that

as when I was young like I didn't know any better

so that that's what happens

and even if you don't have such a

maybe an extreme family situation

every parents or every teachers even society media

everyone there is this narrative that floats around

around money um

and you mentioned before Lachelle

a few different un

resourceful belief systems around money

like yeah money doesn't grow on trees

or only like rich people are all jerks yeah

but what have you then

since reframes your belief systems around money

like how do you see money now yeah

oh my gosh okay

so first of all when we recognize that money is neutral

and I get to choose

like I'm gonna give you guys another example okay

so um

a lot of people just diss social media right

like it's so bad right

yes I have my biggest platforms on social media

and I've been able to influence thousands of people

due to social media it's money

social media is no different than a hammer

I can choose to build a house with a hammer

or I can hit you over the head with a hammer right

it's a tool it's up to us and what we do with it

we get a chance to use our free will

to use it as that neutral object

to do what we want with it

and so when I get a chance to decide that

I get a chance to use my superpower and choose again

I get to decide like you know what

first of all

I'm going to choose that that belief system

BS is BS

yeah right

and I'm going to choose to look for evidence

that's going to be different

and it's going to be what I want to see

and I started looking for things that showed me that

oh my goodness like

I remember very early mentor that I had

very early in her business

became quite successful

and she purchased an orphanage in Africa

one of my very close friends

has done very well for herself in business now

she bought an amateur basketball team in Nashville

Tennessee

and she uses it as outreach for troubled young men who

want to become professional basketball players

but she's mentoring them

they're coming in with very toward past high crime

high diversity high

high school dropout rate

and she's teaching them what it's what's possible

there's no way she could have done that

you guys if she hadn't had the business

that afforded her to buy that basketball team

so when we get a chance to look at this

I get a chance to challenge my BS and say

are all people with money bad

or where are the examples in my life

or where are the examples in the media

where are the examples in my church

where are the examples in my company

that I get a chance to see what really amazing

good people are doing with their money

that's who I wanna be right

that's who I wanna be

I wanna make the world better and bigger

because of something that I did to help them

and if I get to use that neutral resource of money

to do that

then that is an amazing gift that I get to give

so it's first it just really comes down to

really accepting the fact that

I don't want to believe that BS anymore

and I'm gonna start to look for evidence around that

and I also think that I've seen people especially moms

I don't know you know

how many of your listeners are our young mothers

but I think that sometimes we

we can get these

belief systems in the way of really big

building bigger businesses

if that stuck in that either or right

and if I start to recognize like holy crap

when I build my and life

when I start to put myself first

so that I can build the business that I want to

while being

very intentional about keeping my priority straight

elsewhere I get to show up more for them

I get to be a bigger mom

I better mom I get to to travel the world with them

I get to give them opportunities

I get to give them you know

more time with me and so

when we look at it from what it can give us

and the way that we can be bigger philanthropist

we can be better moms we can retire our husbands

if they're in a miserable job

or don't know what they wanna do

we give them options money equates to options that's it

money equates to options you guys

and you get to choose what you do with that

but if

you are holding yourself back from receiving that

then you are not able to create those options

that are going to bless other people

and that's one of the biggest things that I see people

see people is getting stuck into the law of abundance

and getting stuck in scarcity mindset

are you cool if I go there yeah

please it kind of like goes off of this a little bit

so scarcity mindset is

and I'm sure many of you guys have already

you know been talking and hearing this

but I wanna just bring this up because it's relevant

scarcity mindset tells us that there is a limited

number of things available

and then if I don't take my own claim

then I am not going to get it or I'm gonna miss out

or if I think that I have a their scarcity

then it means that there's no room in the market for me

or there's not enough money in the world

because all of the other rich people already have it

and that keeps me into a scarcity

meaning that the power is outside of me

instead of me being able to claim that power okay

abundance really

just allows us to recognize that everything that is

part of my future life is already in existence

the money that I am going to make

has already been printed the

people that are going to change my business

have already been born

they're walking around this earth right now

I just haven't met them yet right

it's the abundance of knowing and trusting

that is all coming and I think that

when we can start to show up in abundance

it allows for us to stay out of the negative energy

and into this expansive space

where we just know and trust that what is for us

is coming to us but the thing that I see

a lot of people struggling with is in addition to that

the scarcity they might be able to be like

yes Michelle yes

I understand that there's an abundance

I understand that everything is already there

it's just coming for me now

this is a lesson that I had to learn the hard way

I do this thing when I have my in person retreat

where I have people create their dream life okay

and one of the things that I have them do is record it

in a voice memo as if it's already happened

and listening to it every single day

because it allows for them to create the visualization

to manifest it

I will tell you that the one that I did

at my last retreat back in September

90% of the things had come to fruition

the thing that was holding back though

is that I hadn't met the financial goal that I wanted

interesting and then I had this

this vision of myself

literally standing here with two arms wide open

and it was like God was telling me Michelle

everything that you want is all here

love abundance

we know that right everything is right here

it's literally like hovering over you sister

you just have to receive it boom

receive it it is all here for us

but so often the belief system that we have

hold us back from receiving what is there

because if I believe that money is hard to get

then it is I'm not going to be willing to say

oh my gosh I totally can charge $300 an hour for that

instead of feeling I only can charge 25

money wants to come to me

but I have to start receiving it

I have to start being worthy of it

I have to start saying oh my gosh

like this is this is intended for me

I'm willing to take it this includes friends

this includes being able to receive not only money

but receiving help from people

cause guess what that help might be

the chain of events that leads to the money

it might be receiving

the connections that somebody's willing to give you

it might be receiving an invitation to be on a podcast

it might be receiving

some advice that you didn't ask for

but all of those things in the

in the practice of receiving

allow you to also receive the abundance of wealth

that can take you to places of

of bigger and better than you can ever imagine right

oh this is so good

starting off with what you mentioned at the start about

you know the confirmation bias

we see what we want to see

so if we want to see that money is the root of all evil

and and we resist

and block that money from coming into our world

then that's what's gonna happen yeah

um but as you said

it's about breaking that cycle of the

this confirmation bias

and seeing evidence of the opposite

and there is so much evidence of the opposite

so much and you know and

and like the

even what you were saying about the scarcity mindset

and the shifting that to abundance

it's true and I

I remember telling myself this

to create that perspective of abundance

when it comes to money

I looked up the size of the Australian economy

which is by the way 2.2 trillion right

there is a lot of money already circulating

already floating around

I'm not sure what the size of the US economy is

that I'm gonna do a quick Google

I need to know this ha ha okay

a lot bigger according to Google

within a one second Google search

$23 trillion circulating

lot of money currently in the USA right

yeah yeah

it's a lot of money it's already there

so what is you know that extra 20,000 dollar pay rise

what is a business that's gonna make $100,000 $200,000

like it is a fraction of the money that is already in

100% and you know

I love that you said

you know that money is a root of all evil

so I work with a lot of Christian business owners

and they're stuck

because they believe that Scripture says that

you know money is a root of all evil

when that is not what scripture says

the love of money is a root of all evil

the love of money so if I look at it as a tool

a neutral thing that I can use

and not create an idol out of it

and not not

you know put it as my main focus

but I can bring greater good to the world

that's what it's for

so if I can make those orphanages happen or

you know sponsor new business owners

to be able to start their businesses or

or help kids get school supplies

like if I can use that money for good

and I keep it out of being the love of money guys

we are meant to have an abundance

because we are meant to use it as the tool

to make the world better yeah

yeah and

and there is already enough money in

the world's economy for everyone

to each individual 8 billion of us to have abundance

yes however

it is just currently very um

unevenly distributed but that's the thing

you know if we have a big heart

and we have a big vision

and mission for how we want to improve the world

then wouldn't that money be better off in our hands

if we could become millionaires billionaires

wouldn't that money be better in our hands

then in someone else's hands

he's only gonna spend it on like

yachts or like drugs or whatever anyway right

like the money's already circulating

but seeing it as oh it

it's not um selfish for me to have that in my hands

it can actually be yeah

self less it can actually be progressive yes

so impactful for me to have that

versus someone else

who's gonna spend it on a private jet anyway

just so that they can jet around the world

you know and you know

the thing

this is the thing I'm gonna bring this up because you

I you said I don't remember exactly what you said

but it's like the that money is unevenly distributed

and I totally I mean

that's a fact right but it's also a belief okay

and so if we use that as an excuse to say well

you know

all of the rich people are gonna keep getting richer

and the rest of us are just gonna stay the same

like why even bother

it is going to hold us back so if I if I may

I would like to go here for a minute

because this is probably gonna be

if you listen to anything you guys

like this is what I want you to take from this

this chat today okay

we all are energy okay

and we get to choose how we show up in the world

and it's going to

impact the amount of money that flows to us

and I'm gonna give you an example okay

so if I were to take us all back to 7th grade

and we learn that

atoms are the smallest things that make us up right

they're made up of these tiny

little electrons that rotate around okay

now

when we are thinking of things that like life is hard

money is hard

all of the rich people are keep getting richer

they're gonna just having their yachts

and I'm just gonna have to drive my hoopty

you know 1995 Beretta around and and I'm you know

this is too hard for me

my electrons in my body are literally rotating slower

so whenever I give myself

emotions that caused me to feel hopeless helpless

shame

guilt despair notice how I even started to talk slower

my voice was lower toned

it's because my electrons in my body

are rotating slower okay

scientists have been able to measure

how fast our electrons rotate

given a certain emotion that we have

okay when we are thinking

those self deprecating thoughts of blaming situations

outside of us thinking that things aren't fair

stuck in scarcity money is bad

I suck

all those things like I'm literally slowing down

I am going to

because of the law of attraction and law vibration

going to attract more of that same s into my life

okay

so I get to choose then to decide how I want to think

and therefore how I want to feel

because our thoughts create our emotion

not the other way around so

if I want to think a thought

that's going to allow me to think things like love

joy appreciation

gratitude and freedom

notice how I'm already starting to be more animated

my voice is higher I'm talking faster

is because my electrons are rotating higher and faster

that you guys

is going to allow for you to attract new ideas

new solutions more opportunities to create more money

I right now have 8 different streams of income

I didn't even have all of them a couple months ago

but because I'm allowing myself to vibrate

at a higher frequency

the things that are also vibrated

that frequency

are now coming into my sphere of influence

and my awareness they were always there

I just didn't see them so

while allowing yourself to stay out of the victim game

and allowing yourself to stay

I'm using my superpower of choice to figure it out

I'm going to rise above my circumstances

I am going to choose thoughts

that are going to bring me to a higher level of emotion

I will watch my life literally change before my eyes

girl like this stuff works

I could tell you story after story

even from the last nine months

of what's happened to me

since I decided to quit my job of 20 years

and go into my entrepreneurship journey

and it blows my mind

but I have to stay in those higher frequencies

in order for the people the solutions

that money to to find me

and the best way you can do that

is to choose the thoughts that bring your level

of emotions to that space

instead of staying stuck down in your circumstances

and what feels like it's out of your control

because everything is figure out about

if you choose to figure it out

I'm so glad that you you shared that because some

some listeners listening to this

may have expected a podcast

where we were talking about very specific

strategies on how to save money

how to invest money so that they can make more money

yeah we can talk about that

but yeah

but that is the outcome of us healing this internal

mental and emotional relationship with money

as you were saying

literally shifting how we feel about it

therefore

what energy we put out into the world regarding money

and therefore

what energy we can then receive or 1 money

we can then receive that 100%

and I and I remember back to like

you know you've got your story of how

so much has changed for you in the last nine months

in terms of income streams

and I have the same

when I hit my first ever six figure year in business

it was purely because of two things

so this was on the back of multiple years of trying

so hard and grinding to get to my first six figures

and I couldn't but this year that I finally did

and it's funny because the first year that I did

it was like 102,000 or something

so I just hit it but the reason why I did was because 1

I focus on you know

my relationship and my belief systems with money

yes and then I visualise what you said before about um

what you got and your

your clients to do at the retreat that you ran

I visualise 100,000

and I saw that number in my head every single day

and I put that energy out

I was like I'm not being selfish

I deserve to have this abundance

but also I can see so many ways

I want to utilise this money to impact even more

to reach even more people

to inspire even more lives

yeah and then I had this positive

loving energy towards it yeah

and then that just then flowed back to me

so this is this is where it all begins

like it's not just about investing

it's not just about saving

it's not your budget sheets

no it's not here

yes it

I mean it does

and that's the thing like it sounds woo woo

but that's why I love to bring in science

and quantum physics into it

because it's happened so

can I just share with you

like

something that happened to me literally three days ago

I just I please need to hear this because go for it

not a bunch of BS I promise

so I was talking to one of my coaches

I I um

believe that all coaches should have coaches

and so I was talking to one of them and I was like gosh

I'm coming a little bit short of my revenue goals

for this this quarter

and I'm like I I wonder what's going on

and she said do you have any outstanding invoices

and I'm like you know what

I do

and there was one that came to mind like immediately

and it was from somebody that I was working with

that was a high ticket client

who I promised her that I would create a different pay

schedule to allow her to make this happen

and she was behind in this in the pay schedule

but was what was interesting is that I wasn't

asking her about it okay

now in my mind my conscious mind I was like okay

well it's all right

like I

I'm at a place where I can give like I can whatever

but what was so fascinating is when I worked it out

I actually was in my subconscious mind

afraid

that I was going to embarrass her by bringing it up

and therefore was going to lose a um

a relationship because maybe she likes me you know

like we all have these things deep down

you guys leave these belief systems are are ingrained

and so

I wasn't asking her about this defaulted payment

because I didn't want her to not like me

even though I didn't see it okay

so I was like alright

I'm gonna get my big girl pants on

and I'm gonna recognize that I have

not been holding her to the standard that I could

that I'm teaching her how to become a business owner

and I am not modeling for her

by having people pay her on time right

and I made the big

you know conversation where I'm like

hey girl like

I'd love to talk about about this

and we can come up with a plan to make this happen

because I don't want you to use

any more excessive energy

consciously or subconsciously

on the fact that you owe me this money

okay so I was nervous

I was nervous about this conversation

I had the conversation

literally in the middle of the conversation

you guys

I got a text message from my rental property

that I bought a couple months ago

3 bedrooms that I rent out all 3 rooms

but I only usually rent out the 2

like most of the year

I had somebody who wanted to rent the third room

out of the blue in the middle of this conversation

I got 12 dollars extra money like that

that I wasn't asking for okay

the next day

I had two people tell me that they wanted to hire me

for a new part of my business

that I'm gonna be offering

out of the blue like I didn't even ask them

I was just telling them like hey

this is what I wanting to do and they're like hey

I like to hire you for this

I would like to hire you to create these websites

I would like to hire you to launch my book

I wasn't even looking for it

I made that one acknowledgement

and money started to flow unexpectedly

to me

it doesn't have to be hard

but you do have to figure out what BS

you have going on between your brain and your between

between your ears and your brain

that is preventing you

from receiving the abundance that is in store for you

it's legit

you can't you can't make yourself can you

no you had this acknowledgement

and then this flowing of events happens

one after the others

yes and you know

like some people may believe it's a coincidence

but if it's a coincidence that is on repeat then right

why not like why not alright

give it a go

I will take all those coincidences day in and day out

yeah we'll take it we're not gonna say no

that's just get like

you have to vibrate at a certain frequency to

in order to be able to open for those

those conversations those solutions um

you have to be able to

acknowledge some of the blocks that you have

consciously or subconsciously

that are holding you back

and once you do that that's where the savings

that's where the the bookkeeping

that's where all the things that come into play right

but if you have always felt like money is stressful

maybe you grew up in a household

where your parents thought about money all the time

they never talked about it

so

the only association you have with money is that it's

that brings negative energy

so you are terrified to look at your books

you have no idea what money is coming in and going out

you have no idea what your profit loss is

you don't you don't know any of that

that is holding you back guys

so you have to get to the root cause of

why are you avoiding certain things

why are you afraid a lot of my clients I work with

are wanting to quit their 9 to 5

so they can step boldly into their

their businesses

that brings a lot of sacrifice to play

where I am holding on with two death grip

this of what I know

instead of opening my fist

and allowing my palms to be open to what

as ready for me to receive

we have to be willing to sacrifice

the good for the great

yeah yeah right

you can't do that you can't take on the next thing

unless you do the small things in the

in between

when I left my 9 to 5 last September within months

I I will tell you this is a crazy thing too because I

there's beyond coincidences

so in my vision statement from last last retreat

I said that

I can't believe that we have our own brand new lake

home

okay that was a Sunday thing

I drove past a house in um

at Thanksgiving I thought huh

I wonder if that'd be a good property to rent out

to travelers at the hospital

it's on the lake

I looked into it saw what they were asking about

that's not too bad I could ask my husband

who is super frugal

the fact that he gave me the green light is a

is a miracle in itself we purchased the house

we had our offer approved on December 15th

we closed December 28th

my first rent removed in January 7th

six weeks you guys

from the time I drove past the house

till I had a pain tenant move in on the lake

now I have a lake home that somebody else is paying for

yeah if I didn't have my

my books in order I have

have a savings already in place

so that I could have the equity to buy that house

like all of those practical things come into play

I'm not discouraging any of that

or discounting any of it

but you have to be able to set yourself up

so that you can receive these amazing

divine coincidences in air quotes

right that start popping into your

your consciousness and then acting on it

and allowing for more abundance to step into your life

hmm beautiful

thank you for sharing that

and like what came to my mind when you were speaking is

as simple as the example of

if you want to attract a beautiful

deep loving partnership

a relationship yes

it

it's the energy that you put out that you will get back

you know if you approach dating with openness

and honesty and love

then that's generally what you will get back

you put out love you get back love

you put out generosity you get back generosity

but if you put out um

you know dishonesty or you

if you put out closeness emotional availability

that is generally what you'll attract back

and that is that is what we're talking about

but in the realm of money here

um and

yeah and as we get to the end of this episode

the show I'd really like to ask you

you know we

we've talked so much about the concept

and what we need to be doing right

like how we need to be like

shifting our relationship with money

and the energy that we put out

but where can we start like what

like is there a daily or weekend practice

something tangible for the listeners to start

in order to yes

get the ball rolling with this

oh my gosh absolutely

so I have one exercise for you

and if you need a place to read about it

you can read about it in my book

cause I have a whole chapter in Money Mindset

but

one of the things that I would recommend that you do is

have a conversation with money okay

so this is gonna feel weird

but I want you to trust me on this okay

there's brain science around this

but what you're gonna do is

you're going to sit against the wall

and I want you to imagine that the wall is money okay

the wall is money and I want you to just talk to money

like it's a person sitting right there

and I want you to tell the wall

tell money what you think of it

how you feel about it what you need from it

I want you to start to have an open conversation

talking to money

how it makes you feel okay

now what's very fascinating when you do this

is that you break through your conscious thoughts

and you allow your subconscious thoughts

and those belief systems to start to bubble up

and I recommend

if you're willing to be vulnerable with yourself

nobody ever has to listen to this

but I want you to record it on a voicemail

on your phone and then I want you to listen to it

I want you to go back

and I want you to journal what you see

when I did that

I realized that I had a really hard time receiving

and so when you talk to money

you're telling money what you think of it

how it makes you feel then

after you've listened to it

and you journaled around it

then I want you to do the same thing

but this time the wall is money

and money is gonna talk to you

what is the money trying to tell you

what is it trying to give you

is it saying friend

all I need you to do is receive me it's right here

I want to give you everything that you could have

ever imagined

so that you can make a bigger impact in the world

but I just need you to receive me

ever it is that money is trying to tell you

is going to give you

a bigger insight into your relationship with money

and once you can start discover that

then you can start to explore how it's gonna

impact you in your day to day

and so doing the same thing

when you're listening to money talk to you

voice record it and then journal around it

and one of the things that I wanted to mention

real quick before we move on

is that there's something called a double bind

and a double bind is when you want

two things that contradict each other okay

so you might want to have a lot of money

maybe you wanna have a seven figure business

but you have this fear that you're gonna be alone

if you if you are successful

only one of these two can win

and so you might sabotage yourself

you might not close that sale

you might not pick up the phone when you know

you need to call that chicken lister

you might not

follow up with the people that you need to

because subconsciously you're afraid

that if you get to that seven figure business

you're gonna be alone

and so if

you don't start to acknowledge what these double binds

are and allow yourself to be able to pick the one

that is going to be the winner in this fight

you're going to continue to self sabotage

you're gonna make

decisions that are gonna continue to block

your ability to get past a level that you're

you've been in and so

getting

simply more aware of your relationship with money

and doing this exercise that I just mentioned

is a great way to start so that you can start to

acknowledge some of these double binds

in these places that you're having conflict around

and start to change those BS

belief systems that you have that are holding you back

oh that is gold I like that um

and I've never done anything like that before

not at least talking to Money Wall

so I'm going to give that a go

even though I have my own practices

like I have this weekly routine where I sit down

I go through my bank statement from the last

seven days and I look at everything that's gone out

and then everything that's gone in

and this is my happy money practice

and I I I teach this to my clients as well

where everything that goes out

I bless it with happiness

it's like okay

if I paid a subscription to uh

I don't know to my podcast streaming platform yeah

also podcast hosting platform

then I'm like okay um

it's money going out but I'm still gonna be happy about

I'm still gonna bless it because

because of this podcast hosting platform

I can do what I love which is podcasting

we can have this incredible conversations

yes yeah

and then I get to gift this podcast to the world

and then money that comes back in

of course like if I've got a client who you know

the monthly subscription has come in

it's like thank you for yes

thank you for this I get to gift to you with value

and then you are exchanging that to me

in the value of this money

and yes

like having so much gratitude for every amount of money

whether it's like a few hundred or a few thousand

having gratitude for that

because if we can't even be grateful for a few hundred

or a few thousands then why would the universe

gift us with tens of thousands

hundreds of thousands I pick up pennies on the street

why because if I don't

I'm telling the universe that

any amount of money is insignificant to me

and that I'm not grateful for it

so I pick up a penny even though

you know in our today's economy

it's not worth anything and I think the universe

thank god for sending me more money

to remind me of abundance

and this is another thing that's really interesting to

and again

you can think it's a coincidence I called BS on it

but I um

I really ever use cash like I just don't

and I will find coins around my house

in my car in my pockets

I don't use cash

but it's a sign that continues to come into me saying

money is coming money is abundance

money will find you and then I think it for the message

and trusting with expectation that it's on its way

hmm beautiful

happy money grateful money

we are here for it

Michelle this has been a fantastic conversation

and I would love to keep going

but we do have we do have um

a time frame to stay within

so I'd love to

finish off this episode with

a routine that I do with every guest episode

and that is the rapid fire questions

so that we have a little bit of fun

and we get to know you a little bit more

okay sounds good

alright so question No. 1

what is your favourite movie

oh my goodness um

my favourite movie these are

these are I feel like I'm such a nerd

um is it bad that I would say

National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation

just because

it's something that I watch with my family every year

and it makes me happy hmm

there's meaning to it yeah yes

there's meaning to it

but I will say that right now I'm binge

I'm binging working moms on Netflix

and it's freaking hilarious

I'm sure it is it sounds hilarious

okay for you mornings or nights

definitely mornings definitely mornings

I'm junk by like 8 p m

yep I feel you

most memorable place that you've ever travelled

you know I think that it was

when I graduated from anesthesia school

and it was the beaches of Jamaica

knowing that I had just accomplished something

really big and I was there with my husband

and we were able to celebrate

something really challenging

that we just gotten over together

and it was amazing

but I've gotten to see so much the world that I

there's too many favorites

so that would just have to be one of them

for the meaning behind it yeah

of course like

that sense of accomplishment

enhances how much you enjoy that trip

even more that's so beautiful

how many coffees a day how many coffees yeah

how many coffees yes

I would say average to yep

yep beautiful

and last question if you could do just

one hobby for the rest of your life

what would it be

designing t shirts on Canva

okay we need a back story to this

like what

please share more

I don't know why but like

if I had the house to myself

with like no kids and no agenda

I would literally sit on Canva and I would just like

design graphic t shirts

I love that like that's creative

it's just so much fun for me right now

it's just fun it's like a creative outlet

I love to just create things

so yeah

and it's funny because as I was asking that question

I could already see you smiling and like laughing

so you knew that that was exactly gonna be your answer

haha

oh well Michelle

thank you so much for coming onto the show

and sharing with us your stories

your experiences your wisdom

um for anyone who has any questions

who wants to find out more about you

wants to read your book you know

hear about your retreats

can you please tell us where we can find more of you

yes oh my gosh

so I like keep myself super simple

and I brand myself as Le shall we

me everywhere so it's L a C H E

L L E w I E m E

so you can find me in all of the social platforms

lachelleweebee com

um and yeah

you guys totally I would love to hear from you

so if there was something in this episode that you

just found really interesting

or you're like oh my gosh

me too I love that too

I want you to reach out to me

cause it's so much fun to meet

people from all over the world

the ones that I get a chance to geek out

around or even just like give you a chance to

to you know

provide a little bit more inspiration to your life

I'd be happy to do that and I just um yeah

thanks you guys

my book is on Amazon it's called Get Out of God's Way

and I have a free workbook

currently on my website right now

that you can get it

to work through it like a study guide

if that would be something that you want to

get into action

and start to change your life in a little bit ways

but it's all about getting out of our own way

so that we can step into the beautiful purpose

that he has for our life

in our business

hmm yeah

and you know

after this one hour conversation

I can only imagine all the value and

juice that would be in your book and um

in yeah

with what you have to share

I think there's so much that we can learn

to get out of our own way

and to actually create this

and life this extraordinary life that we

we all like we have one life

like why not you know exactly

um so once again Michelle

thank you so much for your time

I know it's Sunday night for you

where as we are recording this

so to me

that is like the most precious time of the weeks

I really do appreciate you coming on the show

um this has been yeah

a gold mine so

I cannot wait to share this and give this to the world

you guys thank you so much for listening

it's such an honor to be here with all of you

and thank you so much for the opportunity

I appreciate it ooft

was that a powerful conversation or what

I hope that you got a lot out of that episode

and that you loved Michelle's energy

just as much as I did and her way of explaining things

and empowering us to create so much opportunity

and abundance in our life

once again if you have any questions

or you want to reach out to either of us

please find our information in the podcast show notes

you will be able to reach us there

and we are more than happy anytime to get back to you

and to start up a dialogue with you about this episode

you enjoy the rest of your day now go out there

create abundance choose to invite in abundance

and I cannot wait to hear

how this episode is going to have a flowin effect

for you in your life in the coming weeks

months and years so please keep me updated

alright fam that's it

for another episode of the Aligned Performance podcast

thank you so much for listening

to the end of another one

I really appreciate that you are still here

until the next one bye