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Hello! Well, thank you all for listening to the second part of our series on Kingdom Leadership for Network Marketers. So I am so excited because we have Lachelle here, who is somebody who I know is a phenomenal leader with Rodan and Fields. She is somebody who is a wife, she is a mom of two, she lives in Minnesota where she's a nurse.

Nurse and ethicist, but also runs a successful business and she does it in a unique way where she leads her team by serving them. And so I'm going to let her kind of share a little bit more about her, but she is, she'll be very humble, but I'll tell you that she actually was in the top 2 percent of her company within the first year of coming on to Rodan and Fields.

And she has brought along amazing team members. So Lachelle, I would love for you to introduce yourself and share a little bit about who you are.

Awesome. Gosh, thank you. Thank you so much for, for letting me be part of this conversation. Leadership is something that is a great passion of mine and I'm just so grateful for this conversation. So thanks so much for that. Okay. Girlfriend. So here's the thing, like leadership is something that I caught.

On to a few years ago as a nurse anesthetist, I was invited to be part of this emerging leaders program. And in that program, I really started to pick up on the fact that leadership is something that allows us to influence and make a difference in the lives of others. And I knew that deep down in my soul, that was part of Of why I'm here, right?

That God has given me this opportunity to try to help people in any way that I can. So I was learning all of these amazing things. One of the books that I read during that time was called the servant and it's all about servant leadership. It's a wonderful book. It's written in a fable. So it's easy to read, very short, and I started to really just get caught up into the power of that influence and the power of really making a difference in other people's lives.

But the thing that was crazy is that I started to also realize that in corporate America, nine to five, it's really hard to be a leader. Because you have to have a certain title. You have to have a certain, you know, position to really, truly have influence. And when network marketing was introduced to me, I was like, Oh my gosh, like this is a way for me to actually use this leadership.

It didn't matter what my last name was. It didn't matter what my title was. It didn't matter what degrees I had. I was given the opportunity to literally make a difference in people's lives on my terms. And I couldn't wait to get started.

Oh my goodness. I love that. Okay. So I want to go back to one thing you just said.

So you said that you recognized that what leadership was, was an opportunity to influence others. And so I think that that's so wonderful because sometimes We don't realize the power we have to make a difference and to make an impact in the lives of other people. And so when you are in a position of leadership, people are looking to you and you're a mentor to them.

So when that got, you said it got introduced to you, what was the situation? Tell us a little bit about how did you come across Rodan and Fields?

Yes. So this is literally a God thing because the, the reality is, is that I was crazy, crazy busy. So give you a snapshot into my life at the time. So I'm working full time as a nurse anesthetist.

So half the time I was spending in the operating room, the other half the time I was a professor, um, crazy busy, long, long weeks. And my two kids, my husband and they were keeping me busy. I was in graduate school getting my doctorate degree. Finished up my last semester of schooling and I was traveling the country.

I had four national conferences that fall Um related to anesthesia that I was speaking at and so lord knows that I did not need to add anything to my plate

I think I just need a nap after here. I know I

know Insane, right? But whatever reason God put this in my heart and I couldn't stop thinking about it.

And one day, literally I was driving home and I stumbled upon a podcast interview with one of our founding doctors, and I didn't even subscribe to this podcast. So I truly believe this is divine intervention here. And I learned about their, their mission, their servant leadership, their heart to really, truly make an impact in the world.

The fact that they were still practicing. You know, dermatology, seeing patients still with, you know, they're too successful businesses. They've started. I was like, this is something that I could really buy into. And so that's what, what happened for me is I started to, to see that, that potential and God wouldn't let me stop thinking about it.

And honestly, um, this is a part of my story. I don't tell really often, but my boss at the time was, Just announcing that she was going to retire in three years. And I had always seen myself climbing that leadership ladder at work. So I would be then the director of the nurse anesthesia program. And that was something that I had always aspired to do.

But the reality was, is that I was not seeing my family as much as I wanted to. And. Uh, something that I don't tell people very often, so I can't believe I'm being led to tell you this now, but one of my goals someday is to write a book on leadership and to let it be focused on the family because the most successful team will ever lead is our family.

And so rather than wasting all of this knowledge on how to run a corporation and a company and a team in the business world, can we apply that to our kids? And I was realizing that. I'm going to write this book someday, and it's going to be for everybody else's family because my kids don't see me. And my boss announced this.

And I remember hearing trainings and they kept telling us, if you can really be coachable for three to five years, your life will look different. And I remember thinking to myself, you know, Lachelle, you don't have anything to lose. So let's say you put in three years and after that three years, you can apply for her job.

Like you'd always plan to, or you can see what happens. And if three years, this stocks and you need to quit, like do it. But if in three years you decide that this is what you know, you want to do now, you know, and within a year I was.

Yes. Yes. Options. And it gives you the choice.

Absolutely. And, you know, within six months I was making enough money to drop my time at the hospital by a day a week.

And I started to recognize that, Holy crap, like this is a way for me to be able to lead people to be challenged, to be fulfilled and see my family more. And within a couple of years, I actually resigned from my professor. position. And now I do anesthesia a couple days a week and run my business and I'm a more present mom.

And so all of that sparked from, from that leadership, basically foundation of really recognizing that I wanted to be a leader to my family as well. And they were getting my sloppy leftovers and that wasn't okay with me.

Yes. Oh my goodness. You know, I think you just, you struck a nerve right there because I have, um, I feel like God has really like put me back in my place multiple times over the course of six years, uh, just being a mom, because it can be so easy to go after your goals and your dreams and your ambitions and help other people and other families and other people, you know, to succeed.

But keeping in alignment, okay, what are my priorities? Like, what is it that's most important? Because if I go out here and I have success in the world, but then my family falls apart, that's not true success.

Right. Right. So

just recognizing, you know, where things fall as far as your priorities and anytime it gets out of line, just taking a moment and realigning it.

Yeah. And you know, the thing is, is that especially for overachievers, like the two of us, it's more fun to chase goals. It's more fun sometimes to, to be an influencer to all of these people who are saying, thank you so much. That changed my life by you, by you saying that or doing that. And it's not as sexy, right.

To stay home and do the day in and day out with our kids. But I think that we have to remember mother Teresa said that. If you want to change the world, it starts at home and we can't underestimate those little things. Now, does that mean that I have to, you know, completely give up all my goals and my ambition and my overachieving, you know, Ness?

No, because I think our kids need to see. Us working towards something. They need to see us giving our a hundred percent. They need to see us working when we don't feel like working, um, going after goals, that stuff, that modeling is so important. And that's honestly, the biggest thing that you can do as a leader is to model the behavior that you want to see in others and remembering that.

But I also think that it's so, just like you said, to keep our priorities in check. And one of the things that I have found in, To be really helpful for me because remember I said I was really busy when I started this Is that I have to remember my priorities And I make them my non negotiables. So my three priorities are God, my family, and my business.

And that means that every single day I have to have given those three things, my time and attention. And if something happens in my days that, you know, comes up unexpectedly in my calendar, I have to know that something else might have to go on to the calendar for the next day, because my non negotiables Might have to be moved, but they cannot go away.

And I think that that has kept me grounded because it's easy for me to get into goal mode and literally like want to continue to work, work, work, work, work until I realized that it's two in the morning. And that's not going to help anybody in the long run. So I think that keeping those non negotiables and those three priorities for me has been a really big part of my life.

Yes. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to expand on that, but also just before that you said to model the behavior that you want to see in others. So I'm assuming you mean like for your kids or for your team, the things that you want them to do for you, to model that, can you share a little bit about what does that look like?

What does that look like to model it? And then also what does it look like when you say, okay, if something, um, you know, comes. On my calendar that I'm not expecting, how do you still model keeping those three things, God, your family, your business, keeping those in, in line.

Okay. So the first question that you asked, um, I'm trying to go back and remember exactly what

modeling it for other people.

So how would you practically do that?

Yeah. So I'm just remembering that. A leader cannot ever, ever let this come out of your mouth. Do as I say, not as I do, that's crap. And you're going to lose influence really, really fast because people are going to recognize it. And, and you're going to lose, you're going to lose authority and respect.

And if you lose those things and you lose trust, They're not going to follow you. And so one of the things that I am known to for my team is that they'll never, ever be asked to do something that I'm not willing to do, or I'm not already doing myself. And I make that very clear. And. I basically will help them by telling them, Oh my gosh, like, I know exactly how you feel.

This is how I felt too. This is what I did so that they know like from true story, from true experience that I understand where they're at. And we're going to do this together. And, and so the other thing that I do is I have a team page, like most of us do, and I take a screenshot. It's like, Hey guys, like, this is what I just did.

This is what I just said. Um, Hey, I just got an order. Um, who else got an order? Just modeling the things that I'm doing activity wise is going to help them kind of fall into alignment because we can't manage our teams. We literally have to just show up and do the work ourselves and we influence through that way.

Yeah. Same with, same with my kids, right? Like I can't tell them. I think a lot of parents, They want better for their kids and they say that like, you know, I never went to college. I want you to go to college. I, you know, never loved my job. I want more for you than that. But again, we have to, to model that for our kids.

We have to say I'm 38 years old and I never went to college, but dang it, I'm going to do it. And we model that for them. And that's what speaks so loudly. And so when our kids, and I say, You know, you guys need to try your hardest on your homework, or I don't feel like doing my homework. Well, I don't feel like doing my business right now,

but I'm going to do it.

Yeah. I feel like that is where a lot of people get hung up. Just my experience in coaching people is a lot of times they work when they feel like it, but then when they don't feel like it. They don't work. And that's really the difference maker between those who are successful and those who are not is a level of discipline in saying, okay, even if I'm not feeling it, I'm still going to make the choice to do those things.

And I think your kids observe that they see, you know, mom might be tired, but she's still making us dinner. She might be exhausted, but she's still, you know, in her office working like they see those types of things. So I think that that's wonderful. So in those moments where you've seen your three priorities.

Yeah, um, you know, fall or get out of line or something comes up unexpectedly. What are some ways that you can keep those in line?

Yeah. So I think that, you know, one of the things I'm going to tell you right now is that I'm a big picture thinker in the disc world. If you've ever taken a disc assessment, I'm an eye with a D wing.

So I have like, No, I'm not organized. I, I don't like structure. I'm a big picture by the, by the seat of my pants kind of person. But I also recognize that in order for me to fill, fit all of this in, I had to get organized. Right. So I made myself a calendar. I had people book in my calendar, you know, from my team or appointments for people that want to learn more about Rodan and fields.

And. I found though that life happens and all of a sudden something else comes up and I felt like, oh my gosh, now my whole plan for the day is shot and I just want to throw it all out the window. And that got really frustrating for me. So what I had to really just identify is what are the three things that cannot go off my calendar today?

Right? And so if a meeting, Excuse me. If a meeting goes long, that's, that's fine. But then I might have to, I might have to, let's say, I'm trying to think of, of something. Uh, maybe I've been wanting to get caught up on something. I might have to put that off until tomorrow because I need to make sure that I spend the uninterrupted time with my kids playing games.

And I, one of the things that I do practically is that God is my first thing that I do in the morning, because if I don't. I'm going to get completely sidetracked and I'm going to get through the end of the day and I'm going to accidentally forget. So I get up really early, like four, 4 30 in the morning, which is really awful to say out loud.

Cause a lot of people, you know, that's, that's a lot. Yeah. You know, um, cause I work in the operating room and I have to get there early. And so I get up early, but I make sure that God is first. And then if I can. Try to get as much done in my day before I'm going to get distracted, the better, right? So for example, if during my work day, if I can be disciplined enough to work on my business during my coffee and my lunch breaks, that means that when I get home, I'm going to have less opportunity for things to get thrown out of my balance.

And I'm not going to have to worry about trying to make those things up again, if that makes any sense.

Yeah. And you know, I think that goes back to discipline too, you know, choosing when your alarm goes off at 4 30, making the choice, okay, I'm going to get up and I'm going to do what I say I'm going to do so that I can make sure that I can spend time with my family and spend time in the word and keep all those things in their right place.

Yes. I love that. So one of the things that I really loved in just watching your business, I have, I've spoken on your team, um, before. And so I've just, I've observed you as a leader with your team. And one thing that attracted me to, um, what you were doing is just the name of your team. Servant leaders, because that's actually, um, in my eight step legacy ladder that I teach in my coaching program, that's step five.

And so it's servant leadership. And so when we connected, I was like, Oh my goodness, I love that you have that name. So can you tell me a little bit about what does that mean to you to be a servant leader? Why is that your team culture and how does that play out?

Yeah. So I think that to me, that servant leadership really just tells to the core who we are in character and that's really where I want to keep us.

Right. And I think it going back to that book that I mentioned the servant, I love that book so much because it talks about what being a servant leader is. And he talks a lot in the book about love as a verb, not as a feeling. Okay. So when you think of love as a

verb.

Yes. And so when you think about love as a verb, what that means is that you have to love somebody enough to, so I have to love my kids enough to discipline them when they're misbehaving, right?

I have to love my team enough to be able to tell them maybe what they don't want to hear when it's what they need to hear. I have to love somebody enough to do what they need and not what I want. And where that comes into sales is I have to love somebody enough to do what's best for them, not what's best for me.

So if there's somebody, for example, who literally is going to have a heck of a time washing their face twice a day, I have to be willing to say to them, you know, What, Why don't we start out with something that's not going to require that or nothing at all. And why don't you call me in six months, a year, when you look in the mirror and you're like, Oh my gosh, I need to do something now.

Now I'm willing to wash my face because I don't want you to waste your money on something that you're not going to use and see results with. So again, I have to put their needs over my wants. And that's the kind of culture that I wanted to build. So that's the servant part. Our, our, um, our three words in our team is grow, serve, and lead.

The growth part is really just we want to continue to improve ourselves and be better so that when we are better, we can do better. We can make a bigger difference when we grow. And so it's growing ourselves, growing our teams, helping others grow. And then the last one is leading. And that's in t Intimidate some people because maybe they don't see themselves as a leader.

And I remind people that again, leadership is influence. I'm a John O. Maxwell, public speaker and coach. And John, that's how he defines leadership is through it's an influence, plain and simple. And so you don't have to have a fancy title. You don't have to have a giant team. You literally just have to be willing to influence it.

How do we influence? So we influenced by our own behavior. And so we modeled the behavior that we want to see in others. And that's the best way that you can be a leader. And so that's really the philosophy that I have with our team. We all embrace it. Um, And it's making us the best version of ourselves and it's allowing us to serve people in a higher level than, than I think we would if we weren't.

So.

Oh man, that is so good. And I think the thing that's so great about what you just said is it takes the pressure off of being perfect. Like being a leader doesn't mean you're perfect. It doesn't mean you have it all together. It doesn't mean that you have all the answers. It means that you're influencing and you're making a difference, but you're also human.

Okay. And so that's one thing that I have appreciated about you, Lachelle, is I feel like you are, I know, I don't feel like, I know you are very authentic and genuine and you care deeply for people. And whether you are talking with them about coming on your team or sharing your product, you are just very authentic in the way that you do it.

And so. As a leader, you know, we all, all of us have mistakes or things that we look back on and we say, Oh, I wish I could have done this differently. So if you can think back on your time in running your team, are there things that you think that you would have done differently?

Yeah, absolutely. I think that the biggest thing that I have to admit, and this is hard for me to admit, but I truly wasn't being a servant leader.

And the way that I say that is I think that as somebody who cares deeply about relationships, I think that sometimes I was so afraid of losing a friend or losing, um, a relationship with somebody that I wasn't always willing to do what somebody needed. And that would, I would made me comfortable. So I was putting my fear of losing a friend over what they needed as somebody that I was leading.

So what happens then is that I do things for people that they could easily do for themselves. And I was literally just reading a book this morning and she says that leadership 101. Um, when you do for others, what they can do for themselves, you take away their confidence. And I think that that's something that I had gotten sucked into early on because I wanted to be such a servant to people and help people and make it easy for them and make it duplicatable and, and making them feel supported.

But what I wasn't doing is being a true servant, because if I was, I would have thought to myself, Lachelle, are you robbing them of this experience because you want them to like you? Or are you pushing them to be the best version of themselves because you see their potential, which one are you doing? And I had to recognize that, oh my gosh, like I'm, I'm making it more about me than them.

And that's not what I stand for. And so that was something that I had to kind of reflect on and, and. It's, it's still, I get, I slip slip into it because I, I want to be helpful and I want to be supportive. And then I have to remember Lachelle, you're robbing them of this experience. What is better for them?

Are you being a servant leader right now? And then I have to get myself back in check.

Yeah, that's so good. And it's really empowerment, empowering those on your team for them to grow, because if it's always comfortable, there's no growth. there. Right. So a lot of times, like we grow by figuring things out on our own.

I talk a lot about the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. And part of that is when you have roadblocks or when you have challenges or things that would trip you up going and finding the solution and overcoming them. And so I think if you have someone who's always doing that for you, you don't have the experience.

So I love that. You're recognizing that because you're seeing, okay, they need to grow in that way. But I think the other thing it does for you is allow there to be boundaries in place. Because sometimes when you're a servant leader, I think there's a fine line between, um, serving And then maybe doing too much.

And so having that, the boundaries in place where you don't give too much of yourself and then have the burnout from that as well. Have you experienced that side of it? Yeah.

And I, I think again, it comes back to really digging deep into yourself and, and acknowledging what is your motivation for doing this?

Is it so that you're liked? Or is it because you're truly trying to serve somebody? And I know that if people literally thought to themselves and asked themselves that really hard question You can be able to identify Whether it is that you're truly doing out of love or you're doing it out of fear And that was one of the things that I had to learn The hard way in my life.

My sister actually became addicted to prescription medications several years ago, and our family had to go through that process with, with her during her recovery. And I will never forget that one of the counselors that we'd met with said that everything that you do. should be done out of love and not fear.

And that helps, you know, if you're supporting or enabling someone. And I think that that is such a fascinating, true word of wisdom for anything, not just addiction. And so when you think about yourself, like, are you serving out of love? Like, Oh my gosh, I love to do this. I want to do this for you. Or are you serving out of fear that if you don't do it, nobody will, um, you fear that they're going to do it wrong.

You fear that you're going to lose a friend. Those things are going to help you really, truly identify whether or not you're, you're crossing that line. And so that's what I would tell people to do is to think about what is your true motivating factor and what is driving that.

Oh, that is so good. That's so good.

I feel like that can apply to so many things, just stopping and asking, am I doing this out of love or am I doing this out of fear? You know, that can bleed into all different areas of our life. And so stopping and asking yourself that question, it helps you to really see what your motives are. So that's really good.

And I talked two episodes ago. So episode 25, I talked about discernment. And one of the things that I was saying was, um, You know, asking yourself, like, who said, who told me I needed to do this? Who told me I needed to do that? So when it comes to being a leader, sometimes asking that question as well, like, am I doing this because I'm expected to do this or I'm, you know, I feel obligated, or I feel like I want this person to do this.

Think well of me, you know, what, what are my motivations versus doing what you feel like God's called you to do and having that recognition and having that discernment. So, so in our podcast, every episode is talking about making a kingdom impact. So I would love to know in your words, what does it mean to you to make a kingdom impact?

That is such a great, great question. So, um, The best way for me to describe that, and I think that this is going to follow in line so much with you and your podcast, but what's so ironic is that servant leaders has the word servant in it. And the thing that drives me to my core in my life, my life purpose.

All comes back to the parable of the servants. And in the parable of the servants, you remember that the three different servants were given a certain number of coins, right? One of them, you know, saved them, one of them invested them and made more, and one of them buried them, right? And so my, True deep down longing is to help people recognize that they are giving these beautiful, beautiful God given talents and it's not for them to bury them, but to be good stewards of the gifts and the talents they've been given.

And when we Truly use something like network marketing or whatever it is to help you grow and develop skills and refine skills and bring things out of you that you didn't even know you had. It allows for you to get those talents out into the world and make a positive impact. And it's so interesting because that is what's happened on my journey.

I am a big time introvert. I, when I started my, my business. Girlfriend, I literally had 200 friends on Facebook. If I didn't know your mom, you didn't need to know my business. And whatever I posted, it was so perfectly curated, like edited pictures of my kids and, you know, inspirational quotes that I shared from someone else.

I didn't want any vulnerability in there. And this business has allowed me to. Truly come out of my shell and I'm starting to truly use the talents that he's given me. And I just want to make sure that I don't leave this earth with talents buried. And I want to help other people do the same. And so that's my mission.

There is nothing else that I need to say after this mic drop. That was so good. So good. And, you know, I've never put the parallel between the talents. Like I, I never, the three servants, I think I never thought of them as servants. I saw them as, you know, um, I guess I just had never put it in that perspective, but that's.

Such a good analogy of, you know, what are we doing with the things that we've been given? And even financially, you know, as people grow in network marketing, obviously there's a lot of success in network marketing. And so are you stewarding your finances? Are you stewarding the blessings that you've been given?

And so I think that's such a great, great perspective of. Looking at the ways that we can serve other people. Yeah. Awesome. So if someone is looking to connect with you, share with us a little bit about, so I know you have your own podcast and you have, you help people with their skin. You help them with skincare.

You help them build a team, which by the way, I don't know if you can see. So those who are listening, listening, um, on the audio, we'll be able to see, but I am batting my eyelashes because Lachelle, I had bought some lash boost from somebody on your team, and it's probably been about a year and a half. And I get so many compliments on my lashes, but it is like made a world of a difference.

Yes. Totally. It's, it is completely changed the way that my face looks because my eyes look brighter. So yes, you look beautiful as always, but, um, gosh, okay. So I will give you a 30 second, you know, overview. If you go to LaShelleWeMe. com, it's kind of like my home base and all of the things that I'm up to are right there.

So you can get access. Can you spell it out?

If someone's listening?

Yes. Yep. And I can send it to you if you want to put it in the show notes, but it's L a C H E L L E W I E M E. com. And that's like I said, my home base. So if you want access to, um, my unstuck podcast, you can get it right there. And the unstuck podcast is, you know, in alignment with what you're doing, honestly, too, because What I have found is that Again, that goes back to the servants and, and the talents.

And I think that sometimes we, we feel stuck and we just need to help get ourselves unstuck so that we can live out all of those, those potential that, that we're given in, in born with. And so what I do is I interview people or I talk to things about myself and help people have hope and practical solutions to get unstuck.

So that you can truly live out that potential that you've been given. Um, so that's on my website. I have a link to different skincare, um, resources. If you want some, you know, guides to how to wash your face, you can get it there. If you want to take a quick skin quiz to see what the doctors would recommend for you, you could totally do it there.

You can see my own pictures on there. So it's kind of fun. And I also have something that. On that website right now. That's currently live that I'm super, super excited about. So we talked a little bit about time management and one of the things that I had found in myself is that when I get a goal in my head or one, when I realized that I'm trying to make a big difference, I can get really, really into my goal.

And social media is a big part of that. Right. And I was finding that I was just overcome with. Overwhelm with social media. I didn't know what to post. I didn't know how to post. I felt like I needed to be consistent, but I didn't know how. And I didn't want to be on my phone all the time. And my family was, you know, starting to complain and that's not the way that I want it to live.

And so what I've done is I've designed a course that allows people to identify their brand. Um, so that you look like you have your stuff together. I help people. I tracked the right people to them authentically, because it's important that I don't give people just copy and paste things. I want this to be a hundred percent you.

And I help people literally design content that is authentic to them. That's going to attract the, their right person beautifully done an entire year's worth of content in a weekend. And I have information

for their social media in one weekend.

Yes, yes, because I found I know right because I found that I would sign up for courses and then they would sit there and I would try to have good intentions of opening them and doing the work and I never did.

And. I really wanted to give people the opportunity to be more engaged with their families and not have to worry about social media. So we literally work hard for a solid weekend together on zoom and I help you do all of this. We get all of your content up and going so that you literally can start living your life again and knowing that you're growing your business on social media without having the pressure of doing it every single day.

So yeah, I'm super excited about that.

Yes. Okay. So everyone go to your website and check out all the things that you have to offer. Lachelle, thank you so much for being with us today. You have blessed me personally, just in our conversation. I have so many notes I wrote down and things that I'm just, you know, um, really going to think on that really encouraged me.

And I know that you were doing great things with your team. So hope you have a wonderful day.

Thanks for having me.

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