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hello again

and welcome to another episode of the Joy Found Here

podcast

so I'm not even sure which way this talk is gonna go

but I wanted to talk to this person

because she's such a great example of

not getting caught up in what you do for a living

what your occupation is that is not your identity

and that is not why you were put on this earth

for this round I'm just gonna put it out there

after you listen to her

you're probably gonna be shaking your head and be like

huh damn it

she was right again because you know what yes

it's true so today we get to talk to Doctor Lachelle

we me now forget the doctor part

I mean don't forget the doctor part

she worked hard to be the doctor

so she had a 20 year career in medicine

check off the box I mean

how many how many people have we spoken to

that have completed the task

check it off oh

but wait

there is more because she wanted more

she wanted more time with her family

she wanted to make a bigger impact

she wanted more money hello

now she is the host of a podcast

it's called The Unstuck Podcast with LaChelle Wieme

and we're gonna come right back to that title

as soon as she we're gonna talk with her

a new book get out of God's Way

and I cannot wait to hear more

because the

message that will probably be delivered is just that

reminder that we were made for more

so with that

I say thank you so much LaChelle for being here

my goodness I am so excited for

and I know that we're gonna have a blast

because you have an amazing energy

and I know that your audience just is on

this journey of finding more joy

which is what I'm all about right

so you did a great job with your introduction with

with me and

and I I gotta tell you for real

Stephanie

that I felt like I was living my perfect life in a way

I felt like

I went to school for what seemed like 100 years

become a nursing lesson I had

my dream job

is working half time in the operating room

and half time as a professor for the doctor of Nurse

Anesthesia program for the Mayo Clinic

like like best amazing

you know career right

and we struggled having kids

so now god gave us two healthy

a boy and a girl children

and I was married to my high school sweetheart

we live in the the dream home I designed like to the

the rainbows and butterflies and unicorns and all that

I was gonna say exactly like most people will be like

is she kidding me exactly

go up being is that like

but what I have to really acknowledge when I think back

and I look at that

is that I'm living in the should life

I was the things that I should do

my mom was very adamant when we were children

that we get a college education

we get a good job because she never had either

and so it was kind of like

I was on this path of doing all of the shoulds

and honestly like I hate to admit it

but you know

I'm all about vulnerability and authenticity

I have to admit that chasing the titles

chasing the career chasing the degrees

literally was my way to consistently

try to prove my worth to myself

and when I was given an opportunity to

kind of reexamine what life I had

it allowed for me to strip away the things that were

my shoulds

and go for the things that were meant for me right

and so that's kind of where this fun journey started

but I will tell you that it was 2,016

and I introduced to business

an online business

and like the funny thing is that like I

you know told you my life at the time

at that exact moment I was traveling the country

speaking for anesthesia seminars

I was finishing up my doctor degree

I was busy

but a friend of mine had told me what she was doing

she was doing this online skincare business

and what's cool is that I wasn't even washing my face

so like here I was

like the 36 year old woman who

whatever

shampoo happened to fall on my face in the shower

was good enough for me right

it didn't resonate with me until it did

and I couldn't stop thinking about it

and all of a sudden

conversation step kept coming up over and over again

and I kept seeing things in my social media feed

and I'm like well

freaking a God like if this is what you want me to do

I guess I'm gonna lean in

but I have no idea what this is

I don't necessarily have time

but inside I was really looking for a new challenge

and I think

I was just willing to lean into this little nudge

that there was something bigger

and better in store for me

so I said yes and I gotta tell you that I was terrified

I'm an awkward shy

introvert who all of a sudden

had to put myself out into the world

I had to network marketing

uh huh you know like

we face rejection on a daily basis

I mean I didn't have any

you know at a very small network on social media

and I didn't really want anybody to see me

because I felt exposed and judged if they did

and so this was huge but

what I did was

allowed that experience to teach me two big lessons

number one is that

in my pursuit of all of the degrees and the

in the job and the fulfillment and all that stuff

I had lost

the part of me that wanted to be the best mom

and the best wife that I could be

and I was out of balance

I didn't notice until six months into my business

that was

making enough money to drop my time at the hospital

by a day a week

and I recognize that

my daughter is gonna be starting kindergarten soon

and I get this time with her and I'll

this idea of an and life popped into my head

it was like oh my gosh

like I really can

like

create a life where I have challenged and fulfillment

and an impact and all that

things that fire me up and create a schedule

in a lifestyle that allows me to be the present mom

that I wanted to be

I didn't even know that that existed

to me it always had to be an either or

and so that was the first revelation

that this journey brought me to

the second one

is just that realization of the worst thing

it's like holy crap

like LaChelle

you've been chasing after all of these things

but they're not even your things

they're the things that said that you should do

and it doesn't even feel like the true you

and it was like God was stripping me of

parts of me that were no longer fitting

it was almost like

you've been wearing a coat for all these years

and then all of a sudden one day you wake up

you're like this is kind of itchy and too small

and I don't really like it anymore

and that's kind of what happened

and I kept basically

shedding these coats of who I thought I needed to be

and allowed myself to come back to

who I was made to be and that lit me up sister

and so I started to step into that

I started to lean into it

and it LED me to this place now where

you know back in September

like you said I left my 20 year anesthesia career

I transferred the pension

I left my benefits you know

all of the things the identity

and stepped into this life that I'm supposed to live

and it feels freaking amazing

and I never realized it until I was living it

that fine has become my least favorite

four letter F word hmm

yeah that's

so often we can get in this space

where we think that we're living this perfect

dream life right

but it's just fine I have a fine marriage

I have a fine body I have a fine

and before we know it

fine builds on fine builds on fine

until you look back on your life and you're like crap

I have all these regrets I lived a life half lived

I never proved to myself that I could do it

and I don't want that to happen to me

and I don't want that to happen to you

and so now

I'm on this mission to help people recognize that

if you can lead in and you can trust these tiny

little inklings of where God is leading you

or your intuition is leading you

you can be LED on an adventure that is beyond

anything that you could have planned

for yourself because I did I checked up all the boxes

everything that I wanted was there

but something more

something stirring in my soul saying like

you are made for bigger and I had to lean into it

I couldn't shove it down anymore

I couldn't be okay with buying

I had to just explore it and get creative and

curious around it and see where it took me

and this is where I'm at alright

so let me start by just saying a holy shit No. 1

let's just start there

but what's so interesting is

you must have been feeling something

it could have been anything at the time

anything at the time but ironically

cause you didn't even wash your face

love that part so you get to the skincare part

that you start to feel alive again

but it was almost probably something that

you might have just done for the first time

on your own without some

following somebody's map or suggestion

or without the checklist

I feel like it was this realization okay

so we think that we're comfortable right

but really when we look around it like holy crap

like we just put ourselves in this freaking glass box

we did that to ourselves and I started to write

you guys can't see me

but I have like bookshelves behind

I say very impressive by the way

I like I like the whole design and the setup

I was gonna I was gonna comment on it

to read I love to just bring it on right

like a huge number of these books are leadership books

and I started to recognize like

holy shit like

I can actually execute

the leadership principles that I'm learning

on my terms hmm

need to have some stupid initials behind my name

or a specific office or specific title

or kiss somebody's butt to get some certain position

and execute it

and use my creativity in ways that were on

hampered by politics and policy and

and all the things and I just like

that part of it started to come to life

like I can feel like I could express my potential

without the ceiling that I had to be inside of the box

incorporate right

it was great I loved it

I truly believe that you don't have to be discontented

to step into something new

I don't wanna push you

I want it to pull you I want it to draw you in right

and so that's what I help people do

I help them to

essentially get from stock to CEO in six months

I take their business that they have down to the studs

I design their life in their business by design

create exactly what they want

put together their schedule

their productivity

their automation their habits the mindset

overcome the imposter syndrome

overcome the fears overcome the money mindset

and help them gain the clarity so they can create

a bigger impact income faster

and it's

all because of the things that I have gone through

myself and I gotta tell you sis

like when I quit my job

like everything happened so fast

like

I made the decision and everything trickled so fast

that within weeks

I was on stage in Nashville at my first conference

I have done on the person development space

I was hosting my first beach retreat

that went better than expected

I was asked to co author

and contributed to a book for the first time

within three weeks of quitting wow

oh that's the universe delivering

I'll say my goodness gracious

just what maybe just waiting for you to

when the outfit doesn't fit anymore

and you finally squeeze it out off your legs

and then you kick it away

yeah that's wow

and it was like this whole time is like I was waiting

and I introduce a lot of quantum physics

and brain science into the

what I do and it was like

I was really struggling with the lab reciprocity and

and being able to receive

and it's like God has been saying to me this whole time

like LaChelle

everything that you're asking for is all right here

all right you need to do is just sat down

and so often at times we all do this right

we clinch with two white knuckle fists on everything

we know because it's good and safe right

yes it is yeah

it's like let go of those clay tight

thin looks like tightly clenched fists

and you open arms up to receive

all of what you want is right here

it's literally like covering above you

you just have to set down and I called it well

it's a lot of sacrifice

it's giving up the good for the great

it's frosting that better is in store for you

but you have to be willing to set down what you know

you have to be willing to sit down

the good to be able to accept and receive

the great that's in store for you

and the fear of the unknown

fear of

let's rattle off everything anyone can be afraid of

we hear imposter

it's always there regardless of anything you do

whether it's for your business

or if you're working for the man

it's are we ever good enough

like are they gonna find out that I don't

what the hell I'm doing exactly yeah

I maybe this is the fluke right

maybe I just got lucky and other fears that I've had

and my clients have as well

is fear of of imperfection

they're so afraid of

of not being that we let procrastination sink in

and we overthink things

actually ever do the things that we wanna do

so many I have a social media course

where I help people plan out

a year's worth of social media content

a weekend and I started that because

I wanted it to be a time efficiency like

let's get your shit done

so that you can get out there on social

what I found is that people were not showing up

not just because of their time

but because they were afraid to be seen

you're looking at somebody here who's never been alive

because of that yeah

there's so many of those things that hold us back right

but what fail to recognize is

none of us relate to perfect people

so why do we think we have to show up perfect

hmm and we allow ourselves

to talk ourselves out of showing up

and being of service other people

the other thing that I really struggled with

was a fear of success have you ever um

had that yeah

yes

what are you gonna do with that when that happens

I mean that's just

it was kind of like this

like you got the beer failure on one side like

oh my God I don't like

completely fall in my face

in front of everybody on the social media world

uh huh uh huh

I failed and and now I'm gonna have to do blah blah

blah and then there's this other side that like

I'm so afraid of being successful

because I had a belief in my mind subconsciously

that

to be successful means that it's lonely at the top

and I had a believe that interesting

get to a certain place in my business

I will lose my friends and I didn't want to be lonely

it was like I kept hearing

at what cost is your success

at what cost is doing

all of this stuff that you're doing

if the people that you love

you look around and they're gone

and I held back we see this a lot in business

we have this inmates thermostat

our subconscious has a belief system of who we are

and how we fit in the world okay

our inside brain and our outside world have to match

so your inside brain is always gonna

look for things in the outside world

that validate its internal views

so your inside world has this set state of who

or what it thinks you are

that your 70 degree thermos

now you start

you start your business or you get a promotion at work

and you start to level up

and you start to have success

and all of a sudden your internal thermostat is like

too hot in here

it's going to kick on the air conditioner

and just gonna bring you back to 70 degrees

so you're gonna all of a sudden stop

you know answering the connection

calls that have been coming in

or cancel things

or you're gonna get sick because subconsciously

something is preventing you from

getting up to 77 degrees and your

initiate self sabotage behavior to bring yourself back

to make sure that your outside world

and your inside world match

and I think that the thing that really can help us

in the space is

rather than going from 70 to 80 degrees

if you can make it a point to do 70 to 71 consistently

71 to 72 consistently 72 to 73 consistently

your subconscious is going to give

itself a chance to reequate

moving far and it's not gonna work so damn hard

to try to bring you back into what it thinks

you're supposed to be hmm

and that I see that a lot with money mindset

to people have limiting beliefs that

you know

having wealth means that you're a terrible person

or that you're a selfish person or blah

blah blah right

I grew up with that mindset

my dad was a farmer he was the only sibling

of his family that stayed and helped farm

and all the rest of his siblings went off and had like

really nice careers

and my mom always felt like we were the odd ducks right

like we were the poor my dad's

lived up 15 dollars a month to raise three kids

from the well

didn't have anything and so

we go to Christmas and we go to whatever family events

and my mom would make comments about so and So's

new suburban and how they so much better

like it was a negative thing to have wealth

and so then we start to whether we

because our subconscious

and many of those beliefs are formed before

we're 7 years old before we have the context to say

that's bullshit like

I don't I don't believe that

we just our subconscious cannot reject

can only accept so

then what happens is that

we start to get our business going

and then we start to make more money

that we've ever made before

and that thermostat kicks in

we're like well

but you don't wanna be a bad person

so let's just stop making those sales calls

or let's stop media or you know what

maybe you shouldn't charge that

maybe you should charge half of that

and just see program works

right and start to sabotage yourself

because here's the deal

if I believe that my program is worth 500 bucks

then that's what it's gonna be worth

if I believe my program is worth 50 bucks

or 5,000 bucks

or 50,000 bucks is who I am and what I believe

that creates that value in it right

so

we are the ones who bring that energy into our costume

of our programs and so

if you're letting your subconscious sabotage

rule the roost you're going to keep

continuing to charge somebody 500 bucks

when you could be charging them 15,000

wow

I love all of this come back to one thing that you said

though when you were starting to realize that

you were looking for some balance

yes you wanted to be challenged

yet you have a family a family that you wanted

you tried very hard to have this family

so you want the best of both worlds as we all do want

and I think it's important that

you keep yourself in that mix

you you still want it to have a career

have your mind challenged

do something and make your Mark in this world

in addition to the end

and so many of us have to choose the well

I was the mom you know

I'm so and so is mom and I did both

like I stopped working when I first

and my kids are adults

but I stopped working to have my first daughter

to have Marissa I left a obviously a very good job

I was 23 making a ton

but I'm gonna have a baby I'm gonna have a baby okay

and honestly I probably

I think I took like a nail course or something

when she was maybe 4 weeks old

I literally left her at my girlfriend's house

for the first time at maybe five weeks

and one of these I was so excited to get out

to learn something new that I dropped her off

first kid

I didn't even tell my girlfriend her name

and when I came back yeah

I realized this and and she goes

I've been calling her sweetie

what is her name again I was like oh my God

that's how fast

I wanted to make sure my brain kept working

you always need the end

and I don't like using the word balance

cause I think balance is it's a temporary state forgot

of course uh huh

I were to think about balance

as we often times do on a balance beam right

it's a very sphere based process

and we're waiting to fall right

whereas with for ice skating

it is a forward moving motion

often times associated with fun

and we're going somewhere right

and when we ice skate

if you have one skate on the ice for too long

you're gonna fall over right

but as you gracefully put one foot down

lift the other up

then the other one goes down and lift the other way up

somehow I'm like it's gonna be down in the ice

a little longer than the other

and that's how I think about balance is like

it's okay to have one foot down

that represents my professional job

and knowing that I can't stay

with that foot down for too long

or I'll fall over

so I have to then lift it up and let my other one down

and this knowing that

it takes a

synchrony of both to continue to have forward motion

right

it's really all about intentionality

and that's why my business is called Life By Design

because I want us to create our business

that gives us the lifestyle and the life that we want

instead of feeling like we're a slave to either one

because I love the fact that I have

so many friends that have been stay at home moms

I give them all the credit in the world

I would have been a terrible stay at home mom

because I'm a better mom when I have an outlet

it's the hardest thing ever

and again it's not for the thing to heart

it works for some others you know

need both or some or a piece of

so you mention your your and that's life I design

that's your course yep

my business consulting firm is called I am

life by design and the I am signifies a state of being

so in the quantum world it's a law of Assumption

when I behave in a manner that is already

as if I'm there and act as if

and I believe that I am already there

and I make small

and big decisions that are consistent with that

future version of my life

like that's when you get quantum results right

and life by design is just being intentional

and so I think that

it's easy for us to feel like we're the tail wagging

the dog when it comes

when you become very active to what's going on

but when we can make conscious decisions

of what we want our life to look like

we can be pro active in it

and we can give ourselves the permission

then to be a kick ass business owner

and on this day or this time

and be a really great mom on this day or this time

and get a chance to just create that life

like for the first time in my life

I'm gonna be able to go on a long road trip

out to the state parks in Utah

and Colorado

I've never been able to get time off to do that

like I get to do that and so I'm yeah

this model that allows me

to be able to work from that space

and to take the time off it's not a reaction

it's I am very intentional

and deliberate around

how I wanna structure my business

so that I can create the life that I want

and you know I think that there's a couple things that

when it comes to being a mom and balancing all of this

is No. 1

I keep being reminded that Mother Teresa said that

if you wanna change your world

it starts at home

and I think often tight than so impact driven

I wanna make a the world a better place

that I forget that the best way to do that

is to influence these

two little party butts that are in my house

right now right exactly

and so just not taking that lightly

and just remembering that

I get a chance to impact and influence them too

and then the other thing is

just knowing that I am teaching them more than ever

by having them watch me watching me do things

scared watching

me go after things that are hard and not giving up

watching me by

by showing up with grit and resilience and perseverance

watching me do things that are out of my comfort zone

and surviving they are learning more

by watching me show up in the way that I am

than any lecture that I could ever give them

and so remember guys

I talk a lot about the amount of vibrational scale

Stephen are you familiar

uh huh uh huh

so the

thing that will get you to the bottom of that scale

faster than anything is guilt and shame

we are meant to live in a higher vibration of love joy

peace freedom right

anytime that we

get shot down to the bottom of that scale

into shaman and guilt

it takes us away from living out heaven on earth

and I talked about that in my book

that

it's my duty to try to stay in that higher vibration

as much as I can

because that's how I can serve people on the best

that's how I can make the biggest difference

that's how I can experience heaven on earth

as I live this life and when you bring that energy

when you walk into that room

and when you are on that stage talking

you're bringing it like you are on the top

wrong

and looking for just another space to go even higher

and your words are so deliberate of

I get to heard that a lot

I get to and the I am

you are just declaring I am

declare it it's yours

reach for it and go back to your

be open to receive and unclench those fists

and I think that one of the things that we

as humans fail to realize

is that we've all been given a superpower

and I believe this with my homework

superpower that we all have is our free will

every single moment we get to choose again

I don't like my results I choose again

I don't like the way I choose again

our thoughts create our emotions

our emotions are what create our actions

and our actions are what recreate our results

so if I do not like the state that I'm in

if I'm living my fine life and I'm fed up with the fine

I get to choose again none of us have any circumstance

that we do not have the opportunity to choose a way

to rise above it none of us are victims

we have shitty things that happen to us

but it's our ability to choose to write above it

and I think that when it comes to our life

I get to choose that I am

choose who I want to be

and I get to choose to show up as her

every single moment and guess what

just like you said

the law of attraction allows for those opportunities

those people the ideas

the solutions to come into my sphere of influence

because that is where my energy is vibrating

and guys like once you've been up there

you don't wanna go back down

am I right like

you know once you're sitting first class

you don't wanna go behind the curtain

you know we don't be liars if we said no

that's no no no once right

we get there this is where we belong

clearly there's been a mistake

if you're telling me I gotta go on that side

so little quick side funny haha story

when I started this podcast

I've told the story before

I took an 8 week course with the podcast accelerator

and whatever Week 3 was you know

come up with the name of your podcast

it tells us what we're supposed to do

you know what your message

Google it make sure nobody has the name

make sure website

etcetera etcetera I of course skim something

perhaps I missed a step whatever

where the minute I knew I was gonna do a podcast

and I knew I was gonna do a podcast for three years

and I had the name of the podcast and I was all set

I'm all set I'm ready to go

I said this is easy I know what I'm gonna call it

because I'm gonna call it get unstuck with Steph

that was gonna be the original name

and it was just an easy slam dunk

until for whatever reason

whatever combination I

was gonna use

was not available an hour before my assignment was due

that class is going on and I have a total meltdown

of course because this is something new

this is very uncomfortable who do I think I am

why do I think this is a good idea

of course

let's go to some tears cause that's what usually

you know will get me moving here

so I'm sitting on my porch crying

but I have my pad with me and I'm like alright

okay enough enough

you can do this and I have enough tools in my toolbox

believe me I know how to get myself back up

so I just start I'm like okay

you know what do you what you know what's the message

what do you wanna do

and I literally just kind of left it and be like

you know

show me I'm hands are up I'm surrendering go ahead

give me let the message come through

and just started writing a couple things

and literally wrote what am I about

what do I want what do I wanna give out

what's my and that's how I got joy found here

I'm like dude I don't know well now look yeah

if it starts here I wanted to start here and you know

this is where you're gonna find it

and that's how I get my name

but I was I was on

I was gonna be unstuck like for the longest time

funny is that I picked that and then I'm like

I love it like I

it literally like I feel like I grew into it

and I think that

the thing that I appreciate about unstuck

the most right now is that

when we feel stuck we have a conscious awareness

that we are not where we wanna be right

so if I'm stuck in the MUD

I am not where I wanna be

or I want to be somewhere else

yeah and I think that really comes into that decision

that it's like no more

I am done feeling like this

so they're ready to freaking stop talking about it

and doing something about it

and that's the space that I want my clients in

I want them to feel like they're like

you know what I am here

I am ready and that's one of the things that I actually

when I designed the book I did it in a way that has

the three pillars of the things

I see successful people doing

over and over again and hmm

happy to go through that if you want me to please

absolutely first one is that desire

and I had to talk about it with my own career journey

like I had to recognize that desire on my heart

and not just push it down anymore

like I could just ignore it like oh

that's not for me that yells

that's just like no

like you you recognize the desire for better

that might be a better marriage

a better job a better career

a better business a better body

whatever that is

you recognize that desire and you lean into it

you accept it like alright

let's see what this is about

instead of trying to ignore it

like it's gonna go away cause it doesn't okay

the second thing that successful people do is

they make the decision

this is a come Heller high water

I'm making this happen this is a death

the declaring this is a

I'm owning it and it's she washy

someday I hope I want like none of that right

like it is literally like

all right burn the boats

I'm ready in fact

like it's funny

cause I actually a couple weeks after I quit my job

I got a tattoo that says own it

oh that's so funny holding it

I'm owning this life

I'm owning this journey and there's no going back

and that's what successful people do

they step into it and they take that on

and they're ready to go right

and you figure it out

you meet the people you need to meet

you learn what you need to learn

the third thing that I see successful people do

is they implement

they do and the dou mean is not even just doing it once

but it's doing it consistently

it's doing it until and what I recognized is that

that sounds simple enough right okay

like I recognize this desire

I'm just gonna make the decision

I'm gonna do easy sure

it sounds great right

like okay

thanks girl and we all know that

there's shit that holds us back

from actually doing that stuff

it's the things that leads to confusion

oh maybe I'm not hearing God right

I'm not equipped for this

but God

my brother Aaron's a better speaker than I says Moses

right like

there's so many things that we don't trust ourselves

we don't trust that we are equipped

we get wishy washy I don't know what I'm good at

or I don't know how to use strength

so

I don't know how my pieces of the puzzle come together

and people get stuck in confusion

and they get stuck in overthinking

and they don't do any other steps

and the confusion is also something that I've noticed

leads into the lack of confidence

or the lack of making the decision

it's the limiting beliefs that we've talked about

the hold you back sure

and all of those things can get in your way

you're ready to make that decision

you're ready to sign up for the course

or to start the podcast and then all of a sudden

you hit that 70 degree and it's 75

and it's like whoop

maybe I'm gonna take one more course

or I'm gonna read one more book

and then I'll do it right

right stuck into the maybe forever

maybe someday you know crap

and so I just wanted to give people

the tool that they needed to

get out of their own stinking way

and to be able to step into that desire

that decision

and the doing and to see what they're freaking made of

right so I love the choice of identification

I'm loving doing because other people might say

and now it's the action step

and it's silly because some it's semantics

but yet

when you don't have that hundred percent faith

and trust in yourself it can just like oh

well action oh

I could never do action oh

but she said doing well I can do it

I don't have to take the next action step

but I'm do it like it's simple bite size doable

I think that this is also a reason why in my program

so my stuck to to full time CEO 6 month program

what I do is I walk with people one on one

and they say the next step is

and then I give them

and then I work through how to do it

and then they show up the next week with it done

I look it over and then we go to the next step

the next step is so they get the accountability

the guidance and the support because they are required

they're not gonna do it and then the

noticing is that when I give you your assignment

and maybe it's you know

I want you to go live on Facebook Steph right right

I won't do that

and then I get a chance to bring in my brain

science and my quantum fist

I get a chance to help you

to unlock that limiting belief that is preventing you

from doing what I'm you know

telling you to do and it's so interesting

like things are so innately ingrained in us that

I'll give you a story I was paying one of my coaches

and she told me to charge

X amount of money for my course

or my VIP day and I'm like

there's no way I could charge that

and I talked to my husband

who has a worse money mindset than I do

and he's like yeah

you could never charge that

and then I got to thinking about it

like I'm paying this woman for her advice

why not thinking that

and so I'm a great fine

I'm going to use her belief in me before I have it

and I'm going to allow her trust

cause she's gotten to see

all of the intricate parts of me

and my business

and she believes in me and she knows better than I do

so damn it I need to start believing in myself yeah

enough to get me through this

and I started like the borrowing benefit

yeah my programs are

have bar

exceeded what I would have originally for that program

and it's like I just had to make that decision

that's why I always joke like

I am not qualified to make you successful

you hear that yeah

you are the only person who can make you successful

I am here as your guide

I am here to instill the belief in you

I'm here to show you what to do

I'm here to hold your hand but ultimately sister

you have to be the one that walks across the street

you have one that that picks up the phone

you have to be the one that picks up the pen

I can be here for you

but I am not the one who makes you successful

you are

and I think that that's when a lot of people struggle

is that they have to bet on themselves

and I wanna be the person in somebody's life that

is walking down the street

and it's time to cross the street

and I am never going to push you out

into oncoming traffic

I am gonna be the one grabs your arm and says

I got this

I've been across the street before we got this

we're gonna do this together

ultimately though

you still have to be willing to lock arms with me

and you still sure I can't carry you

drag you push you it's got to be you yeah

I think that's a wonderful point

because some people who might look into coaching

or might be hearing this and be like wow

let me get in touch with her

because she'll make me get to either my neck

or she'll like

I can do this because I'm working with the show

but don't forget once you start working with someone

you see exactly what they're about

and you're giving them an extra boost of belief

that we don't see in ourselves

where we look in the mirror and we see the flaws

and you're like oh my God

of course and it's just a matter of

I'm sure

just repetition and just a new way to reframe it

there's two things that I have gotten

by being a consumer of coaching

that I think is oftentimes

we just don't do what we said we're gonna do right

absolutely expensive coach that I've ever paid for me

I paid her more than my husband's first year

teaching salary like it was a lot of

and I ended up taking out a business credit card

so interest free business credit card for 18 months

and I like alright

like I will make enough money to pay back listen

but I gotta tell you guys that when you pay

you pay attention

hmm say that again

cause that is when you pay

you pay attention so it's a missing link

it was that accountability for me

like you better not fucking waste this

like this is a lot of money for your family

you have to show up and do what you said

you're gonna do you cannot skip your coaching college

you cannot skip your homework

you are investing a lot of money

so when is enough of a stretch for us

we're more willing to do what is required

when we do what is required

is when we get the transformation friends hmm

the periods right there

because you do period and the sentences yes

and and so I used to struggle again

going back to my money mindset when I first started

like oh

I can't charge that and then

I realized that I am doing somebody a disservice

by not charging what this is worth

because if it is enough of a stretch for them

they are going to take it seriously

enough to do the things I'm telling them to do

and therefore they will then get the transformation

but if I've done 37 dollar a month you know

memberships and nobody freaking showed up

because there's not enough skin in the game

and so we do that we value things

that we don't have some skin in the game around

and so when you are a coach or a service provider

I want you to remember that you are there to serve

you are going people at the service

if you are not making it enough for them

to push them to actually do the things

you're asking them to do

the second thing that I've gotten

out of being a consumer coaching

is the who do you know

I Learned this really

well articulated concept

from an guest that I interviewed on my podcast

and he said it's not what I know

it's who I know and he recognized that he could spend

I mean everything says

everything that we ever need to run our businesses

on Google or YouTube right now

like let's just yep

and now AI thank you AI

I'm having a great the greatest

thank you chat I'm having the greatest time

it's like you know what

I can consume all of this information

it might take me nine years

but I can have a nine minute conversation with somebody

who's already done it

and knows the tricks of what's working

what has it that is going to condense time for me

hmm so

when you invest with somebody

who's already made the mistakes

who's already invested in the program

that you wanted to do but were too expensive

when you work with people

who already have been on that road

you are dancing time

because you're getting the Cliff Notes version of

right to the need of what you need to know

and therefore you can get into action a lot faster

so I'm grateful that I've been

able to push myself through that

and it allows me to insert people on a better scale

as well just because of my own experiences

I love that and I always say

it's important to have skin in the game

but you really did paint a very

very clear picture

and how else are you gonna get from good to great

if we could do it on our own

we would have by now absolutely

all the more reason this has been delightful

thank you I love your story

the name of the book again

is called get out of God's way

it is get over yourself

and step into the beautiful purpose

he has for your life in business

all right that is everybody's treat to themselves

do not wait to receive it as a gift

the gift is you so therefore everyone go out and buy it

I'm sure it's gonna Amazon

wherever books are sold the website

where are we going to find you

the podcast and all of those coaches

cause they'll be tracking you down

my friend yes

oh my gosh yes

so my homebase is le shellwemy

com so that's easy

so L a C H E L L E W I e m e dot com

so that's my homebase mine go on the unstuck podcast

that's where you're gonna find information

on my courses

where you're gonna find information on my books

and other resources that I have for the book

I also have on my website

a workbook that I've created for you guys

as a study guide completely free for right now

I don't know if it's gonna stay that way

so make sure that you head over

let's grab that but it is a study guides that you

can grab your business besties and work through this

so that you have that accountability

so that you have those intimate conversations

to help you get unstuck

to where you keep getting in your own way

and I really wanted to just make sure that this is

accessible as I could

for everybody you also can on my website

you also can get

access to all of my social media channels

but I'll make it easy for you

I'm everywhere which is 15 because

I had 200 friends and again

if I didn't know your mom

you didn't need to know what I was doing but now I'm

the veil is off she's everywhere

she's totally exposed yes

it happens

making a fool of myself on TikTok or LinkedIn or

you know it happens

I'm ready and I brand myself

it's always Atlas shall we meet

and all the platforms so you can find me

yeah if that's pretty much it

but I would be honored you guys to have you pop in

say hello

let me know that this is where you Learned about me

and tell me what your favorite part was

about our conversation cause it's been really hmm

there were so many to choose from

I love made for more you know

superpowers because we forget and

and the fact that fine doesn't have to be fine

and with that we drop the mic

it has been amazing thank you

thank you thank you

thank you for more than I could ever imagine

but now I know it's very possible

thank you for all of that

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