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hi lashelle

thank you so much for joining me this podcast episode

really appreciated how you doing today

I am so well

I am so glad to be here and to serve your audience

the two of us have so much in common

that I'm really looking forward to

pouring into your audience

as an extension

of all the amazing things that you're up to as well

so thanks for having me pleasure is mine

and we excited as well

like wanna talk about something unusual

just like three things successful people have in common

and three things like they hold them back

and and I know that there is a pattern as well

like a successful people who wake up early mornings

and they have their own virtual routine

and things like that and I didn't believe in a very

very early of my career

like I thought like anything is possible

because seems few of them people are saying

or you can build a business

we can do whatever you can do

like you can stay awake all night

and I tried that and it actually hurt me in a long run

like I call cervicalitis

my stress and everything or really

really bad so with that now I believe in it

like you need to have some kind of routine

you need to follow through

like what other successful people are doing

there is a pattern in it so I love to know

and we can have conversation into that

so before the love to know more about yourself

like what do you do

like how we help other people go through the process

yeah absolutely

so I am a peak performance coach

and a business strategist

I love to incorporate my loves of quantum physics

and brain science into what I do

so that I can help people have sustainable change

it's really fun to see what people are capable of

once they start to believe themselves

and start to

put the missing pieces of the puzzle together

and completely show up in ways to make a bigger impact

more money and to create more time with their family

and so those are the things that I love to do

um I kind of have a unique journey

I actually am a nursingesthetist by trade

so I have my doctorate degree in anesthesia

and decided to leave my 20

year anesthesia career to pursue my dreams

though I know what it's like to

to live in a space where everything seems fine

but there's actually more

there's like something deep down inside of us

it says like this isn't it

there's something more in store for you

and so I took that leap

and I hope other people do the same

and I am fortunate enough to be a best selling author

and a podcaster myself and a speaker

like I'm literally living my best life right now

and you and it's so much fun just to see like

what I'm capable of each step of the way

and that's what I wanna help other people do as well

so yeah

that's pretty amazing so thank you for sharing that

so I know like a

you come from like a different background

for medical profession to right now

like a business profession

it's like a complete different world right

like I know like anesthetic side of it

like something get really

really stressful

and there is like really worrying moment

like you give someone like a

you don't know like how they're gonna come back or not

like them there is a crazy moment

because my son had to go through that

like a few times because of his seizure

and medication

couldn't stop his seizure and anaesthetic

like they given the medication and everything

and they just like finger crossed like a

even though they have to stand there for few hours

like until like they go back to themselves

so that's like a crazy moment

now starting a business so it gives you like

a more of taking a risk kind of ability

so you can take more risk

because you build a kind of muscle

and now you're doing it right

yeah but thank you for sharing that

so now

we're gonna talk about the topic we have in our hand

and I'm gonna start from like

the three things that holding us back

and then we can focus on the three things

like our successful people are doing

so if you can stop like them three things

like holding us back then we try to solve the problem

right absolutely yes

and oftentime they actually talk about them in reverse

so this is gonna be really fun

so the three things that I noticed that

people are held back by is No. 1

it's a lack of clarity so in beds in business

especially

if you don't know who it is that you're serving

and what they need

it's really going to be hard for you to get traction

so this lack of clarity

keeps showing up over and over again

and I think that people

in the area of just life in general

often times people are feeling like they're stuck

they're feeling like they're made for more

but they don't know what that is

so anytime we're stuck in the space of confusion

and oftentimes

what happens with that is that when we are confused

many of us will start to ask for advice from

a plethora of sources a plethora of people

which then leads to us to be overwhelmed

yeah right

and then we're like oh my gosh

I don't even know where to start

so then we don't right so a lack of clarity is a really

really big piece that stalls people's progress

and holds them back from even taking the next align

action and what people oftentimes don't understand

is that it takes action oftentimes to create clarity

and so if you do the thing

the next align step the next inspired step

and you discover like okay

I didn't like that I loved that yeah

that made me feel good or yeah

you know I'm good at this

then that reveals the next step in clarity before you

but if you are just waiting

and holding yourself in this pattern of

needing everything to be perfect

before you take any action

you're going to stay stuck in this confused state

and it's only gonna perpetuate more confusion

so the second thing that I noticed

that holds people back is a lack of confidence

and this is so malt multifaceted because I

I use the 3 the 3 C's clarity

confidence and then consistency with my third one

but the confidence piece is a huge one because and I

I listen to one of your episodes in the past that

you talked about this lack of belief

and without a doubt

that is something that I've noticed is a Lynch pin

the the one that will completely catapult you

in the different direction

is if you believe that it's possible for you

if you don't believe that this life

this business this income bracket

this level of impact is possible for you

you're

not gonna take the steps required to make it happen

you're not going to take the risks

you're not going to use courage to take a light action

you're not to show up and talk to the people that are

you know

you're nervous about you're not going to get up early

like you said and establish that routine

and so if you don't believe that it's possible for you

then you're not

you're basically going to create a self

proclaiming prophecy yeah

and you get cold cold feet

isn't it like every time you trying to do presentation

you trying to talk to new customer clients

and they can see that like

you don't believe in yourself

you don't believe in your products or services

how they can believe in yourself

also

like the same with the like your employees as well

like if you don't know like

your business gonna do well in next five years

or three years and your employee sees that

they gonna start leaving you as well

like they don't wanna stick around

the company doesn't believe in themselves right 100%

and so the thing is that

there's so much that we could dive into

just this one part of the equation

because evidence you know

is is deep down rooted into the belief like

can do I have what it takes

and oftentimes people don't feel like they do I

I work with people on various stages of their business

and my my signature program is called Spiral Up

because I noticed that when we can stay in

for momentum we can continue to spiral up

the spiraling down as an entrepreneur right

but each level as people level up in their businesses

we still combat this the same fears

the same imposter syndrome

the same places that

that have helped us stuck in the past

as we go around each turn of

of the upward spiral of the leveling up

and so knowing that this lack of confidence

or this lack of belief

or do I really have what it takes is normal right

but it's just a matter of

we have to make the decision to do something about it

we have to make the decision to lean in with some

some faith and some some hope right

but there's even more to that

so in the quantum in the quantum physics realm

it's called expectation

and so in the quantum quite a bit of physics from

especially with like the law of attraction

you have to have a desire

and then you have to have an expectation

that it's on its way to you right right

even without any proof

and once you have this expectation that it's coming

so it's like this expectation with Thanksgiving

then you're gonna take inspired action

that's gonna be aligned with that

expectation and that sets into effect

the things in the quantum space

is gonna allow for that to come to fruition

in the brain science world

this is very similar in the sense that

if I don't believe that it's possible

if I don't believe I have what it takes

if I don't believe that it's

it's gonna be happening for me

our brain thinks in patterns

our brain is very efficient

so whatever beliefs we have at the core

it within our subconscious

our brain is going to look for evidence

the outside world

to prove the belief that it already has correct right

if I don't believe that is possible for me

then I am going to look my brain automatically

for evidence to prove that it's right

and it's a self fulfilling prophecy

and so you have to start tricking your brain into

start to thinking about what it is that you want

and that act as if you're already there right

right it's stepping into

this is the law of Assumption in quantum physics

so law of Assumption said that everything that I want

and have and be is already in existence

I'm already her

you're already him and that I can behave in that way

my brain then will look for evidence

the outside world to prove that that's possible hmm

yeah right

and so it's this little

tiny piece of the puzzle that you're like okay

hold crap holy crap like where is my belief

is it am I doubting anywhere

and then really honing in

looking at that

and what way is that you can start to build that up

is gonna be huge because if you can start to believe

even before you see things

I call it purposeful delusion

because it's actually going to use your brain to your

advantage and there are ways you can do that

I know that you've had other episodes on visualization

and stuff like that so

there's definitely

a lot of really great brain science around that space

but oftentimes too

I mention this with clarity and action

confidence comes with action as well yeah

so when you are stepping into two seconds of courage

right and you do things scared

you proved yourself

that you didn't spontaneously combust right

I have yet to meet a person who blew up

because they did something scary

talk to a client or you know

whatever went after the sale

and so when you think about that

it's like I did it okay

I'm still alive and then that gives you the confidence

and the courage to do it the next step

and then you're okay I'm all right

and then you do the next step and before you know it

you're like holy crap

I got this right so

it takes confidence

in yourself after getting into action

and so it's really the courage that we're looking for

instead of the confidence right

and then the consistency right

yeah and consistency one right focus consistency

so we often times are

just not consistent with our efforts right

it's like okay yep

I meant to get up this morning to do my morning routine

but I had a late night last night

or I intend to to post on social media every day

but nobody's even watching it anyway

so I'm why bother right and so

these little things that require

that compound effect of doing things over

and over again even when we don't feel like it

even when we're scared is really holding us back

and so the lack of confidence

clarity

and consistency are the things that are definitely

the things that I'm seeing over and over again

that are that are holding people back

and so when I discovered ways to correct those things

I call that my expedited

expedited impact and income formula

because when we can really tie into those

those three things

it's amazing what can accomplish yeah

but these are three things that are great

and like you talk about so obviously lack of clarity

if you don't like it which direction you heading to

then you're gonna be bombarded

and like it when things doesn't go as you expected

like you feel like yeah like where am I heading

where am I going

and what's the purpose is all about confidence as well

like in no clarity

then obviously the confidence not gonna be there

and consistency obviously without like action

there is no results and without results

there is no confidence

so everything works like in the same realm

like in the same circle so yeah

thank you for sharing those three

and now talking about like a

what's the three things like

a successful people doing

in order to become a successful yeah yeah

absolutely so like I said

I usually talk about these maps in order

so this is really fun so I am a nerd

if you guys are watching this on video

you can see that I'm surrounded by books

I've read every single one of these books

I love taking a knowledge

I love listening to podcasts

I love having conversations with successful people

and the more that I reflected my own life

the more that I looked at the clients that I've helped

the more that I

really taken advantage of the themes that I've noticed

in the podcast

the books the conversation that I've had

there's three things that maintain

a consistent showing up the one is the desire

you recognize the desire

and you're doing something about it right

so I mentioned that I had a nice career anesthesia

I have a good living nice stable life

everything was was just fine yeah

but that but

and fine

are the two words that are gonna hold you back

from your best life right right

so my was fine people will say well

my weight is fine my marriage is fine

my job is fine my health is fine

but fine is gonna keep you stuck

because there is so much better in this life right

so successful people recognize the desire they're like

you know what like I I want better than this

I know that I'm capable of more I feel it in my bones

but they don't shove it down

they don't pretend that it doesn't exist

they don't make excuses to say

you know what that's just too big for me

or what will people think or whatever

like they lean in they explore it with curiosity

they're like alright

let's see what this is about

so recognizing the desire is first

the second one is they make the decision

and this is like

and I know that this is sounds simple right

like just make the decision

but this is like in your bones like decision

this is not a wishy washy I hope this works out

I'm gonna try and see what happens kind of decision

this is a commitment

this is a declaration that I'm gonna do this

come hell or high water I'm gonna make it happen

this is the decision the commitment

that allows you to do the things that you're scared of

to get up when you don't feel like it

to have conversations with the people that you know

you need to have conversations with

it's the thing that propels you to learn

the things you need to learn

to meet the people you need to meet to make it happen

and this allows for a decrease in the excuses

in the butts that can hold us back

because all of us have that yeah right

the butts come into

but I don't really know what I'm supposed to do

but I'm not really confident but I don't have you know

this stat or the other thing

but I don't have a a network

like all of those butts get pushed to the side

when you make a true decision

that you're just gonna freaking figure it out right

and it's really really cool in brain science

I've been this on stages with people

when I use words like I try

I hope I wish our body our muscles are actually weak

hmm

but when we use words like I will

I am our muscles are are stronger

I have people actually hold their arm up

in somebody else's try to push their arm down

and there's a noticeable difference when we say try

I hope I wish versus I will and I am

and so that's that conviction

that's that decision

and just like you mentioned earlier

in this conversation

it's not what we do is who we are while we do it yeah

that's the energy behind it right

I can give you a script right now

and I can tell you exactly what to say

but if you don't have that energy that conviction

that belief in you behind it

people can completely pick up on that

and so if you're like oh

my business coach is telling me this

I listened to this podcast

they told me this and it's not working

who are you behind those words

do you have conviction do you have the belief

do you have the

the expectation that this is gonna work

and that you are a blessing

and a service to somebody else yeah

that totally different energy around that right

and then the third thing that um

that I noticed that successful people do is

so this is the desire decide and do

so these are my deeds is the doing they

they get into action

they do what they said they were gonna do

we don't make excuses we don't say oh

I was just too tired today

or I don't know how to do that or whatever

like it all ties again back to their

This Big Beautiful Puzzle

but you can't get to that last

you can't get results unless you get to the last step

all of these books around me

can give me

all of the tools that I need to be successful

but if I don't actually implement the dang thing

how is it gonna help me hmm

if this continue consume knowledge

we have to actually put into action

and see what happens right

and that's what people do is they make the conviction

they don't allow excuses to get in the way they

they kick the fine out of the

out of the puzzle

because they recognize the desire and they do

they get into freaking action

and it allows for them to start seeing the results

they wanna see

yeah totally

thank you for sharing those last show

like we're nearly going to end with this podcast

so those are listening

if you wanna give like one advice

just starting out like help yourself out

they don't know like what to take on the next step

um feel like the scary part right

like what would be like your steps

like I know

like

you made that change from like a medical route to like

a business world like

you had to take a wish and go with like

everything you had so we saw that like yourself

and they probably still don't tell

like

from the full time job to wanna transition or like

they just started out like

and things doesn't going like as they expected

like everything's gonna be so much easier

but they finding like a struggle of to struggle

what were your advice to them

yeah so I think that um

it I'm gonna give them two pieces of advice okay

I hope that's okay overachiever here right

so the first thing is

recognize that you always have a choice

so many times

people get stuck because they feel powerless

to the circumstances they feel powerless

the fact that life is hard or that

they don't have this or that and all

ultimately what happens is that

our thoughts are what create our feelings

our feelings create our actions

and our action create our results

and all of that can link back to your thoughts

so choosing your thoughts

deciding that I am not a victim to the circumstance

deciding that life happens for me

not to me deciding that I'm going to figure out a way

versus subcoming to whatever circumstances are

are perceived to be out of my control

that are pushing me down that are holding me back

the moment that you decide to take action

the moment that you decide that

you're not a victim to the circumstance

it allows for you to clear up the space

to then pick the next align action

and so you have to get out of victim motor blame

because that is going to keep you stuck

100% of the time

the second thing that I would say is that

I want you to decide who you want to be

this is really going back to that law of Assumption

again

what I have found is that when we can decide what that

future version of ourselves looks like

and I like to tell people to go with three years into

the future

because it's a little bit of a stretch than one year

but it still feels doable right

mmm think of that person and who that person is

how do they show up

how do they carry themselves

often times if you have a hard time with that

you can think of somebody that

you've been following online or

or a mentor of yours somebody that you

that you know is several steps ahead of you

and then you ask yourself

what would that person do in this situation

how would that person show up

you're afraid to pick up the phone

what would that person do right now

would they be afraid to pick up the phone

no okay

well what would that person say

how would they carry themselves

what would their conversation be like

and I it's almost like you have to become an actor

in your own life

and you're acting as if you are already her or him

but I promise you

that when you can put yourself into that place

it kind of bypasses the lack of belief

because we're pretending

but when you pretend enough

you start to carry yourself differently

you start to take on this new person

and before you know it you're like holy crap

like look at everything that just happened

because you were consistently showing up

in that energy and that headspace

and you were doing the things that

that person would do

and watch what happens when that happens

and so that's what I would say is who do you wanna be

and then start showing up with that person

every single day tiny decision to after another

that's great thank you so much for the advice

so last year we nearly end of this podcast

so before we go

if anyone wants to learn more about yourself

your business or podcast well

the best place to find you all yeah

thank you so much

and I'm so I'm getting so glad to be here

so you can find me um

it's easy I brand myself all with my name

so it's Lachelle L a C H E L L E Mimi w I e m E

so it's Le shall we be dot com

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Facebook um

YouTube all the things

and um I would love for you guys to check out my book

my podcast is called Spiral Up

um

and you'll find all of that information on my website

so come on over and be loved to get to know you

may mention this podcast you guys

so that I can know the context of our conversations

and let me get to know you a little bit better too

and I just wanna thank you again for having me today

it was my pleasure super excited

it was a really great conversation we had

so I hope you have a wonderful year ahead

and thank you so much for coming to this show today

yeah thank you

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